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Original poster

To now want to travel at 37 weeks pregnant to DPs home town

44 replies

MaryMotherOG · 07/12/2011 12:04

Long story please stick with me.
DP and I are due to marry soon only I found out I am pregnant, DP is not the baby's father but he is a good man and has said he will still marry me, something to do with a dream he had.

Now I am 37 weeks pregnant and DP informs me we have to move back to his home town something to do with being counted,

He has only gone and got a bloody donkey to travel by, and as far as I know he has not made any bookings anywhere for us to stay now maybe I am just being hormonal but, AIBU to think this is too much of a journey?

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EcoLady · 07/12/2011 12:05

I'd make sure that he's booked some decent accomodation for you.

Pandemoniaa · 07/12/2011 12:06

Leave the fucker.

You know what'll happen, you'll drag yourselves all the way to his home town, won't be able to get a room (even in the Holiday Inn) and at least 3 Kings will turn up and expect to play the Arse Slap Game.

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MaryMotherOG · 07/12/2011 12:06

This is what I have told him, I mean its Christmas everywhere will be booked

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myncichips · 07/12/2011 12:07

YABU if those hard working shepherds and wise men (who must be knocking on in age by now too) can manage the journey so can you

Xmas Wink
squeakytoy · 07/12/2011 12:08

will nobody think of the poor little donkey :(

redskyatnight · 07/12/2011 12:09

The main trouble with travelling by donkey is you won't be able to take all your baby things with you - I mean some of your family/friends will probably get you useful things like baby-grows and blankets, but you can always bet there will be someone who gives you something like a sheep -or maybe smelly oil and expect you to be very grateful.

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MaryMotherOG · 07/12/2011 12:09

But it is a little donkey, surely it is unfair on the poor animal I mean I am not a size 6 right now

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Tenebrist · 07/12/2011 12:10

There was this one stable that got some really bad reviews on TripAdvisor. Apparently if you stay there there's no proper curtains and the light from this really bright star shines through, and then you get disturbed the whole time by random shepherds and kings who insist on gawping at your DC - you won't get a wink of sleep.

snuffaluffagus · 07/12/2011 12:11

Firstly, I want to hear about the biological father of this baby - does he not have a say in where you go immediately proceeding the birth?

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MaryMotherOG · 07/12/2011 12:14

The bio father is cool with it all, he just insisted on naming the baby, I think in future he might tell us where we should live, but I know he will always love his only son

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QuintessentiallyFestive · 07/12/2011 12:14

You follow your betrothed in thick and thin, even if on a mule. Sorry.

TheFestiveKnid · 07/12/2011 12:15

I would make sure that there are enough parent & child parking spaces. What if you can't park the poor little donkey? :(

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MaryMotherOG · 07/12/2011 12:16

Also DP is a carpenter and is insisting on making the Baby a cradle, am I being PFB worrying about splinters???

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andiem · 07/12/2011 12:17

Think of the gifts you might receive at the other end. Gold and other smelly stuff, may be useful.

Wormshuffler · 07/12/2011 12:19

Yanbu, the M in L must be a bitch to not let you stay with them.

choceyes · 07/12/2011 12:19

although best to leave the myrrh.

TheFestiveKnid · 07/12/2011 12:20

I assume you have got a rear facing donkey seat for the baby? Xmas Hmm

QuintessentiallyFestive · 07/12/2011 12:21

Actually, I have changed my mind.

Dont go. Dont marry the nice man.
Go home, claim benefits, and ensure that you contact the CSA about the errant father.

The way things look at the moment, I sort of think that Errant Fathers should take much more of an interest, and be made to take part of Life to a greater extent.

DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 07/12/2011 12:22

He doesn't need to make a cradle so I wouldn't worry too much about splinters. Just tell him any old thing will do, newborns don't care. Perhaps a feed bucket for the poor little donkey? No, too cylindrical. A hay rack? No, then he'd need to take a drill to get it off the wall and that would just be one extra thing for the poor little donkey to plod onwards with...

A manger. Bound to be one. Perfect.

Pandemoniaa · 07/12/2011 12:32

A cautionary note. If a chap called Herod suggests he pop in to bring the new baby a splinter-free cot, run for the hills.

ParsleyTheLioness · 07/12/2011 12:37

Do NOT go. Start as you mean to go on. Next, he will be telling you his mother washes swaddling clothes better that you do, would have a better manger, yada yada. It's the thin end of the wedge IMHO.

Thumbinnapuddingwitch · 07/12/2011 14:30

Seriously? You want me to call the RSPCA on you? You can't go all that way on one little donkey, it'll be knackered! Cruelty, that's what.

And as for your "good man" - how bad could it be if you didn't go to this family counting session? I mean, it's not like anyone's going to kill you, is it! I think HIBcompletelyU trying to get you to travel at this time in your pg and on one poor little donkey. Bet you haven't even got travel insurance to make sure that if you do have the baby on the road, you're properly covered.

Think twice about this set up - there are a couple of red flags going up there...

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MaryMotherOG · 08/12/2011 21:34

Well I am worried about the little donkey and I have no idea what to pack.

The in-laws wont put us up as they seem to be upset this is not their sons baby, Can you lovely ladies advise me on what to pack

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ParsleyTheLioness · 08/12/2011 21:42

Wet wipes, anti-bacterial hand gel, paper knickers, spare nappies....

troisgarcons · 08/12/2011 21:44

Hmmmmm Travellers ......

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