by that I mean shouldn't he understand how she thinks, feels or reacts to certain situations a bit better?
For example, tonight she goes off to bed ok, she's a bit under the weather and has a cough, we gave her some cough medicine before she went and she went straight to sleep. A couple of hours later she's coughing really badly so we both end up in her room. I sit her up and rub her back as she's half asleep, off he goes to the bathroom to get her some water, he offers it to her but she doesn't want it, he tries again to offer it but she starts shaking her head and getting het up making her cough more, he then starts to insist she drinks it so she starts crying which makes her cough worse. I tell him to leave it, she calms down and goes back to sleep.
I know it's no big deal but this happens most mornings, ends up in an argument and he simply doesn't seem to read the situation or understand if he needs to change tact as he's aggravating the situation.
She's 4 so I get that she can't get her own way and he needs her to understand he's the adult etc, but sometimes it's a case of picking your battles and understanding that there is more than one way to do things.
We both work so it's not like I spend more time with her than she does.
Am i being picky or expecting too much from him? I'm just getting fed up of listening to the pair of them bickering all the time, I will always back him up in front of her so she doesn't get mixed messages but I sometimes find myself cringing and I don't want to appear to nag. What's the best way to approach it?