AIBU re flying lesson

[HappyCamel]

DH's work have given him an extra pay rise to recognise how fab he is at his job, so well done him and lucky us.

I said to him he should spend the first couple of months of extra money on himself because it's his achievement. He agreed and has asked me to arrange for him to have flying lessons.

Now, I have bought him a couple as birthday presents over the years because he'd love, one day, to have his pilot's licence. But now we have 8 month old DD and are TTC I am terrified about him flying a little plane. What if he makes a mistake or if the plane fails?

Should I refuse or should I let him? I feel like he deserves to have whatever he wants, he must be doing exceptionally well to get recognition like that when most companies are cutting back but I'm desperately scared of losing him.

You should discuss your fears with your DH, and how your feelings have changed now you're both parents. Flying might not be the only thing he wants, just the most obvious iyswim. This might be a good opportunity to sort out making a Will and getting Life Insurance in place (horrible thought but necessary)

Yabu

We have life insurance and wills in place, I'm good at that sort of stuff just don't ask me to do housework

I know he'll pick something else if I ask him but would I be being precious or sensible? If you think precious then I'll grit my teeth and let him.

Thanks Aviatrix, I'm not scared of planes, in fact its a shared interest, it's him being in charge of one that worries me. You make a good point about the instructor having control too though, I hadn't thought about that.

I would hate it too but im not sure if its unreasonable or not.

he must be doing exceptionally well to get recognition like that when most companies are cutting back
hmmmmm I'm guessing he is a banker then!

No, he's in IT but he wrote a bit of software during his commute which his company can productise and sell for a lot of money.

wow, he did go the extra mile for them then :)
Just tell him how you feel - in a 'isn't it weird how having kids changes your perspective on things' type conversation. It is a normal change, I can't stand watching horror films any more, which was something we used to enjoy together. But since having kids I just get too freaked out.

Don't be a spoilsport. Let him do it. I suppose that, if he'd wanted a motorbike, you'd have said No to that as well. Tsk!

Allow him to let his hair down because it sounds as if he has a demanding job for an 'award' to be as good as this. Then, when it's your turn, he won't be able to say No to you.