To be more than a little annoyed that DH had spent all our money on this bill

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We pay an accountant for our business accounts. Normally we pay a certain amount each month and it works fine. For some reason yesterday dh decided to pay for 6 months this is hundreds of pounds, and now we have no money left to buy anything for christmas - i mean WTF why? I have access to all the communications etc there was no reason to do this do this so why???

I havent said anything yet i sat there with a frozen grin of horror ( i dont like to react straight away to things like this) but as it dawns on me i am feeling more and more put out and yet another part of me says well its not like he blew it on something stupid for himself it could be worse, calm down, he has just had a moment of madness.

Aibu to want to scream "what about christmasssss" around the place and have a big sulk? Or should i suck it up and practice saying "its about the people your with not the presents you get" to my family?

Was this payment in advance, or had he missed some payments?

Is this paying the accountant, or paying taxes via the accountant?

The payment was in advance it was actually paying the accountant for the service not taxes etc.

Have you had chance to ask him about it yet?

Vivi when i asked him he said "it just seemed like a good idea to get it paid" which is why i think maybe moment lf madness. He doesnt really seem to have a reason he just did it.

Reality maybe he thought this, i have had some small deliveries for the children (a few toys from the argos sale etc) i normally do the shopping although i havent bought anythign for his family yet so hes going to feel a bit of a fool when it comes to exchanging presents i think!

can you ask for the money back somehow - say it was transferred in error?

Yes, what Oranges said. I reckon my accountant would transfer it back. Especially as he knows how rubbish DP is at managing money and would recognise that it was an error of judgement

Worth considering?

does he have some reason to think that he will not have enough money to pay the next six months installments?

Or is he approaching the end of a tax year and trying to get the expenses up to minimise taxable profit?

Or, maybe, the accountant has reason to believe that he will be running out of money and has refused to act unless paid in advance?

I have a feeling that, just maybe, he might have done it for some reason other than to annoy you.

Ill talk to dh about asking for it back. I will have to practice my calm exterior for that conversation. I dont feel confident the accountant will give it back - maybe christmas spirit will prove me wrong.

Also, does he acknowledge that it was a bit nonsensical, or does he think you're overreacting?

Whats your access to credit like? I'm not one for promoting unnecessary borrowing but on this occasion its a sensible solution. If he's paid up-front that means you'll have £XX.XX extra per month for the next 6 months, so can't you just spank that now on an arranged overdraft/credit card?

Piglet as far as i know, and it is a joint business so i am not totally outside looking in there is no reason to think he wont be able to pay (i mean unless he is planning on taking a three month holiday and not telling me in which case this is the least of my worries!). I dont think he did it with the sole reason of annoying me i think he just didnt think things through.

Vivi i hav a feeling that when i did say "oh so what do we have left" he realised it as a little premature perhaps but i think he will do anythign to avoid admitting outright he was wrong!

Has he done thIS maybe subconsciously so less will be spent on Christmas?Is he concerned about money in general?