to request that DD is given her afternoon tea BEFORE the nativity play at nursery?

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DD is 15 months. Takes no milk from bottle or cup and just BFs, so doesn't have any milk at nursery.

This week it is their nativity play. It starts at 3.15pm, and lasts for about 20mins I guess, and they have their tea/afternoon snack afterwards. It is nearly 4pm by the time the kids are reassembled, taken into rooms etc and given their tea.

Would I be unreasonable to ask nursery if DD could be given her tea at the normal time of 3pm?
Lunch is at 11.30am, and to last till 4pm, I think, for small children (and especially DD who won't be having any milk)is a big ask. I worry that DD will be ravenous while being involved in a play she has no concept or understanding of, and will just be hungry and unsettled.

I also have a 3yr old at the same nursery, and I'm not bothered about him, as he would be so involved in all the nativity stuff he will forget he is hungry and wont' cause a fuss.
I remember 2yrs ago, when DS was just over 12 months, the same thing happened, and when I picked him up after the play he was crying and really really hungry. i don't want the same happening again.

So am I being unreasonable and precious?

YANBU. If they won't give her tea, at least make sure they give her some fruit or something first.

Why on earth are 15 month olds doing a nativity play???

If they have lunch at 11.30, I think it's a bit much to expect them to go until 4pm without any food. Could they have a snack at about 2.30?

I'm just thinking that if she has her tea 15 mins before the performance starts then other children might also want something to eat and the staff will be in a flap trying to get all the children ready. It would be easier to give them all something a bit earlier

WTF is a 15 month old doing in a nativity play. Surely the little ones should be being looked after properly whilst 3 year olds do the play?

LOL at 15 MO doing a nativity, they will do what? eat some straw

I think you are overstressing this a bit.... can you give them, some rice cakes or something

Well, all the children in the nursery are in the play. Even the littlies. I'm OK about her being in the play, but worried that she will be hungry if she won't get her tea at the usual time of 3pm. I don't want to come across as a troublesome mother complaning to nursery.

Last time, 2yrs ago, DS was so hungry he was crying while I reheated his bottle of cows milk, and after I fed him the bottle (although I send him in with a bottle, he never took one off the nursery staff, always waited for me when I picked him up at 3.30pm), there was no food left as all the older kids and eaten all the sandwiches that were laid out. He was offered some fruit puree though, but as he'd never had puree he didn't have it. The snack time after the play tends to be a free for all, and if the parent is there, they leave it up to the parent to feed the child, and as I couldn't get to the food quick enough as I had to feed DS, he didn't have any tea that time. It happens 2 days in a row too.

I can't give her anything porcamiseria as I won't be there to pick them up till 4.30pm.

Your last post sounds a bit odd, tbh. Your son was screaming with hunger, but refused fruit and wouldn't take his bottle until you arrived to feed it to him personally? How on earth do they manage your children all day?

They manage them fine. They have tea at 3pm and so DS won't have been hungry till I arrived anyway. He refused fruit puree as he's never had it ( I BLW him) and nursery never gave him purees either.

Nursery staff were too involved with the play to offer him bottles of milk too. Regardless of the fact that he prob won't take it off them.

Are you sure they're not planning on giving them a snack before the nativity? I find it quite strange that they would expect toddlers to go 4 hours without a snack or drink.

Definitely mention it to them. I doubt they'd be able to do her tea at the usual time, separate from everyone else- but it should be easy enough for them to provide rice cakes and fruit or something.

I asked her keyworker, but she said she doesnt' know and to ask the manager. But 2yrs ago, they just delayed tea time, with no snack in between.
Maybe I am being precious, and it's only 2 days a year, but then DD won't understand that would she?