to really really hope this is not a real Durex advert?

[dustbunniesmakegreatpets]

I am surely NBU.

Look: twicsy.com/i/3cgmE

OMFG. Wrong on so many levels.

Surely surely it's a sick spoof, or a publicity stunt, or, or ... just not something that real people have thought would induce other real people to buy these condoms.

AIBU?

Link

Oh good lord. I sincerely hope it's a spoof.

Oh, thanks for doing the link. Couldn't see the screen properly due to shock - eyes rolling wildly around in sockets and steam coming out of ears.

Why whats wrong with it , I guess that the story behind it is that they are so thin that you don't notice whether he is wearing one or not. Nowt wrong with that.

I don't think it's that bad. People clearly stopped using condoms because they moan about the loss of feeling (well men atleast). If it increases use, it's a good thing. Clearly they are saying he did, it's a condom ad!

Last time I used them it was like making love in a plastic bag. People are reading too much into it imo

Also can´t see the problem tbh.

Just advertising a thin condom!

Perhaps what I don´t like is the idea that the woman hasn´t taken responsibility herself?

I think it's quite funny...in a laughing at things that are wrong way.

but it's really not that big of deal tbh

I think it's the idea that she might be "pleasantly puzzled" rather than "fucking enraged".

The idea that it would be "pleasant" not to know whether you were at risk of pregnancy or an std is just bizarre.

The idea that the use of a condom is a decision for the bloke, and the woman should only wonder about it afterwards, is also just bizarre.

And it's grim that condom adverts should normalise the idea that you wouldn't make fucking sure that you were using a condom.

I do see that it's lighthearted, but it seems I'm a humourless po-faced old bag on this issue.

Think it's also redolent of sex being something that men do to women ... I mean, how is she so unaware of his dick that she doesn't know if there's a condom on it? Are they doing it under a duvet in the dark with gloves on? Or is the idea that she saw it go on - but then thinks he might have sneakily slipped it off, as she can feel his every fucking vein?? I just don't get it. How is that supposed to be good??

Uugh.

I agree with your points about it dustbunnies in your 08.24 post. And I'm one of the most (sexually) liberal people I know.

Complete madness.

If it was a bloke in the advert wondering if the woman put one on him or not, that would be slightly more understandable if HE couldn't tell it was there.

I do agree with you on your last post dustbunnies she should know whether he has a condom on or not, or take some responsibility herself, but also understand the subliminal message behind it.

Its a bit sexist tbh, but a lot of adverts are.

Am and that most people think IABU to be so , but I'm still utterly revolted by this.

YANBU

that's appalling for all the reasons you say

Weird and stupid. I don't know why any woman in her right mind wouldn't know if the man she was having sex with had used a condom or not.

dustbunnies - I don't think you're being humourless here :-)

Well the "pleasantly puzzled" bit is weird, and obviously a comment rather than part of the ad.

The original ad is a bit odd and doen't seem very sensible but is trying to make the "undetectable" point. Anyway, she would have been sure if she'd put it on him herself.

christ on a bike

sex is something only done to a woman, and she is too thick to ensure she protects herself against pg and/or STI's

awful

It's so wrong. The idea that a woman would have so little regard for her health that she wouldn't make sure a condom was used.

The idea that a man would try to get away without using one and then that the woman would wonder if she's been put at risk of pregancy or disease with a coy smile on her face.

Vile on all levels. What message is this giving out to both men and women?

I like the idea that a thin condom would be more pleasant for the woman also-I´m sure it´s not only men that don´t like them.

But I don´t like the idea that she´s such a ditz/out of control that she would go ahead & wonder afterwards iyswim.

wel, yes, having "pleasant" sex where you don't feel the condom doesn't turn you into a complete fuckwit, does it ?

I think it's a horrible ad. Are people who think it's amusing missing the small print at the bottom? Pleasantly puzzled is very much there on the ad.

BTW - I think it's a really good idea for Durex to focus on how thin condom is and that feels for both partners almost as if it isn't there. That would improve condom use. BUT there are better ways to do this than such a horrible sexist ad.

Also that so many people are not horrified by this ad.