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To be really miffed about the 'hoodie' thieves!!

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RaspberrySheep · 06/12/2011 02:27

Hello, I can't tell you how frustrated this makes me, but here goes...

DS (9) is Dyspraxic and one of the ways this manifests itself is that he is very unorganised. His school have been fantastically helpful and he now has a buddy, who ensures that he manages to pack up and bring home everything he needs to.

However, as Autumn drew in, both DS's school and football team requested that children bring in additional tops and jogging bottoms to keep them warm while they played / did PE outside.

Maybe rather stupidly, I bought DS 2 x extra warm and fluffy tops to take along and keep at school. Don't get me wrong, we're not talking Boden / Louis V designer tops here, but they were lovely and cosy with DS's name clearly sewn into them.

Fast forward to today and not only have both tops gone missing, but also 3 x pairs of jogging bottoms, 2 x hats and 2 x 'hoodies' with distinctive logos / designs on the front.

Every time an item of clothing has disappeared, it has not turned up in lost property. In the case of the 'hoodies' going missing at football practice, the children do not have access to changing rooms and so leave their belongings on the side of the pitch. When I arrived to collect DS, his top had already been packed up and taken home by somebody else.

I am the first person to understand that children mistakenly take items of clothing home that are not theirs. But I don't understand why, if something has another child's name clearly marked on it, would the parent or adult at home not send it back in to school or hand the item back to the owner?

Like most people at the moment I can't afford to keep replacing clothing that is taken home in error by somebody else. I feel sad for DS as I now buy him the cheapest items I can find. I just wanted him to be cosy through the winter.

AIBU to expect items taken home in error to be sent back to whence it came??! Surely as a parent, we have a rough idea of what clothes our DCs have, and if something that isn't recognised turns up in the wash, with another child's name on the label, then it 's obvious that another parent and DC would be keen to have it back??

With the help of the school buddy, who checks that DS has packed up everything he needs to, we know that these items have been taken by mistake and not left behind in the classroom, as they literally vanish while DS is getting changed.

Really sorry for rambling and for such a long post.

Thanks for reading.

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flyingspaghettimonster · 06/12/2011 03:36

YANBU, those parents not sending them back are pretty strange. Unless maybe the other kids are deliberately throwing your son's clothes over a hedge or something? Or the parents don't check the school bags... I rarely go in my kids school bags. Maybe print a short note 'could all parents please keep an eye out for the following items, all with 'x name' sewn in, as they seem to have been picked up accidentally after P.E and it is getting colder now so he needs them, thanks' and make 20 odd copies for the teacher to send home?

Crabapple99 · 06/12/2011 04:34

I can't tell you how maddening I find this. DC have expensive, warm clothes too, particularly thermal skiiing gloves. They hand them back to me at the school gate and go into school with the cheepest possible supermarket version, as I've never known expensive clothes make it home from school

complexnumber · 06/12/2011 06:03

Even if it was an honest mistake it can still take ages to get things back. DD2 lost two pairs of swimming goggles this term. One turned up two months later in lost property and the other had been picked up by her friend and still took two weeks to get back to school. The thing I learnt is don't give up or stop checking the lost property.

RaspberrySheep · 06/12/2011 07:19

Thank you so much for your replies
Smile I will keep checking lost property. I'm embarrased to say that it's got to the stage now where I'm secretly noting what DS's friends and class mates are wearing if they have their coats off or undone, which is not only a bit pathetic, but who's to say that they don't own the same top themselves? Maybe I need to find a new hobby!!

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