To be fed up

[ScaryFairy28]

Im on my own with dd by choice I choose to have her in a same sex relationship that I knew would probably end, which it did. Dd was perfect new born never cried slept through from 5 weeks still is perfect but is becoming difficult to settle at night used to feed to sleep and then go down now wakes as soon as she hits the cot so we're now cosleeping, I've just moved to a new area to be closer to family but have left good group of mummy friends and finding it really cliquey here. But while I'm miserable I feel I have to right to be as a chose to get into this.

How old is your DD?

You will make new friends. There will be mums you've not yet met or not spotted who are lovely. It just takes time. Keep getting out. I think this time of year makes it worse cos' in the Spring/Summer you often chatting to others at the park and everyone just seems happier.

Try to be proactive as your DD doesn't want a miserable mummy. Things haven't worked out as ideally as you'd have like but that doesn't mean you have to be miserable. You don;t have to around with sack cloth and ashes.

It is really hard at the moment but things will come together. You have had a lot of changes, you need to brush off any hurts, tend to any wounds and restart.

She's 7 months nearly I go back to work in January so trying to meet people before then. It's just hard when they know each other and are all older than me. I'm not that young 28 but just don't fit here! Despite it being where I grew up! Relationship ending not a big deal I'm happier on my own just need some space I'm fine if I can get my evenings.

I think the first 6 months of baby coming into your life are all about baby and everything else gets a little neglected. You are bonding with baby, learning about your daughter, learning about being a mum, learning all the practical stuff, not getting much sleep etc...

Don't be so hard on yourself. You will gradually emerge out of the babyville life you have been submerged into. You will get some 'you' time and discover you again ( you will have probably changed abit !)

You will meet parents through nursery which will come along quicker than you will ever guess, then school etc... You can go swimming with your DD at weekends and meet parents there. I was living in a new area when I had my DS1 and we had no family around. I really had to force myself out there. NCT groups - is there one near you? Toddler groups, singing groups etc... Even if I didn't meet anyone at least my DS1 was having new experiences. Then gradually you develop new friendships...

And good luck with the sleeping and getting your evenings back... There's loads of posts with sleeping tips.

Think I'm just finding it hard having left such a good group of friends to move to this cliquey nonsense!! Sorry this is a bit serious for aibu. I'm going to every group I can think of but it's all the same people and I suppose I want things to happen quickly cos I know in no time I'll be back at work