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AIBU?

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hormonal, or in the right?

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NotJustKangaskhan · 04/12/2011 16:27

Probably just post-natal hormones, but this really annoys me.

Backstory: I'm estranged from most of my family (due to abuse, addiction, and generally toxic relationship - and even with this it took me a long time and a lot of advice from others to do so). I'm trying again with my mother for the sake of my Grandfather, who is a wonderful man if a bit blind to the issues within the family. It's a sporadic email relationship with my mother. I also have my sister on Facebook after she got married a year ago and it was the only way to communicate with her about it. She pretty much takes whatever I say on there and texts it to my mother, but never actually says anything to me (for example: when I announced my pregnancy on facebook, as so many of my friends are in the States where I originate, she texted my mother, but never said anything to me).

I gave birth to DS2 on Wednesday, and after emailing my mother I announced it on Facebook. My sister couldn't even give me a basic 'Congrats', she simply said "Whats My new nephews name???". My mother's email was "Yes, [sister] texted me that Our boy had arrived" (punctuation and caps as they put it). I hardly call him "my son", and I find people - family or not - who aren't in their lives regularly to refer to them...possessively (I guess is the best term for it) is just off.

so AIBU or are they?

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AnyoneforTurps · 04/12/2011 16:48

TBH, it does sound a bit as if they can't win - you don't like your sister's text because it's too detached and you don't like your mother's because it's too possessive.

YANBU to be sensitive if they've given you a hard time in the past, but it does sound to be as if they are trying to do the right thing at the moment.

And congratuations on your LO Smile

squeakytoy · 04/12/2011 16:49

to give them the benefit of the doubt, it may be a typo and she meant to put "your boy"..

Crosshair · 04/12/2011 16:50

It would annoy me, but I think its one of those things you need to let go and not over think.

My mum sometimes refers to my soon to be baby as hers, I find it abit weird.

congratuations on ds2. :)

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