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To get irritated by people who won't reply to texts but are on facebook all the time!

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MidsomerM · 04/12/2011 10:20

Can someone explain this to me?

I have a couple of friends who are hopeless at replying to texts. They can take days to respond, or sometimes not reply at all. So I assume they're busy - fair enough, you can't drop everything to reply to texts.

But then I notice that they've been on facebook every half hour throughout the day, updating the world on what they've eaten that day, where they are, what they're thinking etc etc. And I know for a fact that the use their phone to access facebook.

So, if they've got their phone, and nothing to do, why not reply to texts?

And before anyone says these people obviously don't like me, I know that's not the case. They are good friends who often invite me over, want to chat and so on. And often the texts I send aren't trivial little observations on life, they're specific questions about arrangements or other things that are important to my friends.

I know some people don't do "cyber communication", but these people clearly do, as demonstrated by their endless facebook output!

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molly3478 · 04/12/2011 10:25

why dont you just msg them on fb then

troisgarcons · 04/12/2011 10:26

I don't do texts. I don't answer them. If its important I'll phone. Actually if it's important, they will phone!

bluecheesefiend · 04/12/2011 10:27

Call them?

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MidsomerM · 04/12/2011 10:28

I've considered that, but I don't necessarily want everyone to know about everything. Also, I suspect the people who post ad nauseam on facebook probably don't read other people's posts, they just write their own stuff. Might try it though.

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MillyR · 04/12/2011 10:28

I don't use texts either.

If there is an urgent matter to be discussed, the person should phone me.

TopazMortmain · 04/12/2011 10:30

It's not mandatory to reply to a text straight away... Hmm

Even if you are on FB.

I don't get it... Confused

youtalkintome · 04/12/2011 10:30

Is it me, i bloody hate texts, they usually come when i'm busy and then i forget, would much rather someone emailed me of messaged me on fb or phoned if it was important. You can private message on fb.

molly3478 · 04/12/2011 10:30

I mean private message. People text me and I private message them on fb back as its easier to type

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MidsomerM · 04/12/2011 10:31

I'm a single parent with 3 young children, I'm not allowed to pick up the phone and talk! Texting is my only means of communication. And as I said, I'm not complaining about people who just don't buy into this world, preferring face-to-face contact or phone calls. I mean the people who are on their phones all the time on Facebook, but don't reply to texts, despite being perfectly "text capable".

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auntiepicklebottom2 · 04/12/2011 10:33

perhaps no credit, but still got the web access

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MidsomerM · 04/12/2011 10:33

But these same people get arsey with me if I don't reply to their texts straight away!

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MrsSleepy · 04/12/2011 10:41

Are you my DH?? I hate hate hate texting but LOVE facebooking!! I get a text I always think I'll reply later but never do!!

pictish · 04/12/2011 10:43

I'm crap with texts. Fiddly, stupid and annoying they are.

pictish · 04/12/2011 10:44

I'm the same mrs sleepy - I think 'ach I'll reply to to that later' but I always forget. Cba with texting at all.

PsecretPsanta · 04/12/2011 10:45

Oh, you'd love me.

I don't even know where my phone is 90% of the time.

I FB from the iPad.

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MidsomerM · 04/12/2011 10:48

Oh well, I stand corrected, it seems people don't like texting.

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laptopdancer · 04/12/2011 10:48

I am terrible at answering texts.It takes me ages find it a PITA with the bloody autocorrect and tapping the wrong letter etc.
Typing on the computer is fast and easy

sharenicely · 04/12/2011 10:54

Yes cba with texts unless I'm sat somewhere waiting and have nothing to do. Messaging on fbook is much easier.
People sometimes text me and I email back (if I remember)

CuriousMama · 04/12/2011 10:55

I love texting but am starting to understand some friends don't. I know they love me though Smile

Have you tried telling them? It may jolt their conscience probably not though ?

MillyR · 04/12/2011 10:59

There is clearly a gap in the market for phones that do not receive or send texts. If such a thing existed I would buy one, and then have the perfect excuse for never communicating via text.

FlossieFromCrapstonVillas · 04/12/2011 11:08

I think nowadays we're so used to knowing what everyone is up to at all times. I also think you should detach the fb/text connection, people will do what they want to and reply when they want to. I don't mean that harshly, just try not to read so much into things, I guess.

MrsSleepy · 04/12/2011 11:09

I would rather someone phoned than texted, I always answer a call, All my friends and family know to call or PM me on FB or they don't get a reply! Texting is to much faffing about for me and most of the time I forget where I've put my phone.

NinkyNonker · 04/12/2011 11:15

I often don't have reception, but use WiFi on phone.

MrsJohnDeere · 04/12/2011 11:24

I can't send or receive texts at home - poor signal - but do dabble with FB. Usually FB on phone when doing something else (on hold on the phone, stirring a pan etc, waiting for kettle to boil)

drcrab · 04/12/2011 11:33

I don't have reception at work so my only means is the office phone or fb. I have fb on in the background on my computer so people end up messaging me and if I'm there I reply. I don't think it's a deliberate decision. I have friends who don't have fb and it's 'difficult' having to do 2 rounds of invites: one via phone text, one via fb!