To tell DH that the £300 phone he just bought himself can be his Xmas present

8 replies

MrsFrin · 03/12/2011 08:50

DH came home last night with a very shiny new phone he bought at a charity auction at a work black tie thing. The night before we'd discussed Christmas presents and agreed that we wouldn't get each other big expensive things as I've stopped work after having Ds3. I was therefore pretty unimpressed when shown this & have told him that that is now his present, he looked rather disappointed. I suppose I could just view it as a charity donation but we would have discussed that first ( we have a joint account) He has also done this before - buying himself some expensive gadget in December. So aibu to say that this time he misses out on a Xmas present because of it?

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2rebecca · 03/12/2011 09:00

No YANBU. £300 is a large amount to spend without discussing it with your spouse, the fact that it was partly for charity is irrelevent. It is his xmas present, what are you wanting that costs £300?

kreechergotstuckupthechimney · 03/12/2011 09:03

£300, it would be his christmas and birthday present in this house.
YADBNU.

nbee84 · 03/12/2011 09:05

Make sure you choose yourself a nice £300 christmas present too!

Figgydragon · 03/12/2011 09:13

Can you say your happy to buy a token gift? If he was disappointed it may be
A. He had something he wanted, so suggest token gift and setting cash aside for next year in case it comes up in a sale next year at a bargain price?

Or it could be

B. He has already purchased you an expensive gift and thinks he'd going to be in more trouble

worldgonecrazy · 03/12/2011 09:15

I would buy him a small Christmas present to go with the phone - maybe a fancy cover, or if you're feeling really mean, a very girly phone charm!

Catsmamma · 03/12/2011 09:18

is it worth the £300?? I think it being his Christmas present is a fine idea and might stop him showing off in front of his friends again.

HappyMummyOfOne · 03/12/2011 09:57

I dont see the problem myself. He's earned the money and is going to be responsible for all the household finances from now on as you have stopped contribuing. Perhaps he wanted a nice phone before finances got tighter.

You agreed small christmas presents but dont mention you had both agreed to resrict all spending to allow you to not work.

pigletmania · 03/12/2011 10:14

My goodness that is a lot of money, that kind of spend would need to be discussed first. Tell him that you would like a £300 Christmas present, why not get yourself an i pad

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