to be scared it will take a long time

[difficulttimes]

to concieve,

have one dc not planned, planning to ttc soon . my mate who's trying for one says Its been a few months and no luck and now I'm panicking that It will take along time, if at all.

And more importantly how to deal with the suspense and waiting eeek, feel queasy about that bit.

Just go for it you never know.

I was going to ttc in June this year but ended up pg in may a month earlier than planned but honestly, there is no use worrying about it until then

I would just go for it as kayano says. Just relax, have some 'special time' with DH/DP and go for it... just remember to try near the ovulation dates for optimum results :) Good Luck x

Go with the flow. Took 18 months for my DD, one accident for my twins

On the other hand it may not happen at all. We tried for two years and had three failed ivf's after. We then spent 2 years going through the adoption process and now have a lovely 2yo little boy. Where there's a will there's a way!

Aw curly , must have been hard though.

Oh, it was! When we started we never thought it's take 6 years for us to have a family!

Curly
I am adopted my mum and dad are so awesome and supportive it was the best thing that ever happened for me. It took them 9 years.

I just think op is worrying prematurely. I did the same. I'm glad you have your little boy

Thanks Kayano!

Took me 18 months and I was not trying to conceive just did not use contraception at all.

I have been pregnant 4 times all within one month of trying. Just always have lots of sex and I didnt bother with timings or any of that, just have it most nights and hope for the best.

There is really no point worrying about this now. It'll take the fun out of those first months of trying.

I assumed for years it would take me ages due to a diagnosis of PCOS when I was a teenager. Then when I was being a bit careless I had what I thought was a chemical pregnancy so I was then cautiously optimistic that it would happen quickly. We started trying and nothing happened. I am now on cycle 13 of absolutely nothing. And tests show PCOS is no longer there so that is not the problem. There is no identifiable problem in fact, with either of us So you can never tell. Just enjoy the first few months of trying to create a baby together.

thanks all , yeah I probably was being a worrywort, I'm just sick of waiting too.

I know what you mean, TTC can be a horrible emotional rollercoaster. Took me about 15 months for DS1, and I hated that waiting part of the month in particular. I was rather relieved that DS2 was conceived accidentally as I was also dreading going through that again (and in particular risking not enjoying DS1 because of it).

Can you TTC without TTC? Sounds odd but I mean pretend you are not TTC, have lots of sex, don't pay attention to time of the month (I think with DS1 one mistake was being aware of time of month, I think I actually conceive freakishly early in my cycle), don't do charts/ovulations sticks etc and try not to be aware of your next AF date. Easier said than done I know!

Good luck!

Took us 6 months which is about average I think.

Now I'm 6 days overdue and still bloody waiting.