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To blame MIL for this?

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Gentleness · 02/12/2011 21:29

I do genuinely think I might be being overtired and hormonal but after nearly a month of night terrors I am ready to hit out at whatever I can find excuse to!

About 1-2 months ago, MIL came for a regular visit and brought her usual bag of books with her which ds1 loves and they read them all repeatedly. Now I love MIL to bits but when I overheard this particular book I could have strangled her. It was all about monsters under the bed and obviously ends up saying that it's not a problem (can't remember if the monsters were friendly or not there or what, but you get the idea). But ds1 at only just 2 had never, ever, ever heard or worried about or been afraid of monsters under his wretched bed until then. He'd only ever woken with teething, cold, hunger etc in all his short life. We've not been precious about books with lions or sharks in or whatever, but it had been nothing like Monsters Under the Bed.

Since then he has had night terrors. He wakes sobbing and can't stop. I know sometimes he's woken for cold or illness but then he thinks about these monsters crawling about under his bed. That is of course as far as we can work out. Usually he is incoherent and just the odd word makes it through.

Am I being all PFB about this? Is it normal for children to just start imagining monsters with no reason at this age? Can I reasonably phone MIL every night around 2-3am and then around 5am when ds1 is inconsolable for 30 minutes and make her listen and grovel?

The fact that ds2 (6mo) is waking 2-4 times a night for bf and they alternate to ensure I get no more than 2 hrs a night is probably causing me to react more bitterly than I should too...

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catsrus · 03/12/2011 19:16

my dd started having night terrors from about 18 months - when she could articulate what her nightmares were about you would have thought we had been letting her watch x rated horror films Xmas Confused she'd never had a story about monsters under the bed Xmas Smile.

she's now a strapping totally fearless young adult and laughs at my inability to watch anything slightly scary on TV ...

tigerlillyd02 · 03/12/2011 19:26

It's hard to protect them from things like this unfortunately. My DS, only just 2 has learned about monsters from my nieces (5 and 6) who are terrified of them and he's picked up on them talking about them.

Fortunately I don't have the nightmares from him but have had several months of him being too scared to go to bed, screaming through fear. Any toys that go roar he's petrified of too and halloween was a bit of a nightmare.

We plod on though. I just try to reassure him, which helps but doesn't take away that fear. Although it annoyed me at first, I do think that he'd have picked up on it somewhere regardless.

babybythesea · 03/12/2011 19:56

Someone else saying it's quite normal - my dd is just about to turn three and we have had periods with nightmares on and off for about a year.
The latest ones (which have been going on for a month now) involve animals in her cot. So far, I have wrestled the following out from under her bedding and out of the window: a fly, a big purple worm, a snake, a penguin and a slug that was trying to kiss her.
Saying that they were not there had no impact at all - she is 2 and not able to be rational in a half awake state in the semi-dark. Pretending to remove the offending animal from her bed works beautifully!

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