WIBU? I think I would but am not sure. Quite petty.

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It's a small issue. Have namechanged as DP knows my MN name and if I do the non-U thing (or at least what I think is non-U) then I don't want him finding this - would undo the point.

Basically money is tight so I made DP a cheap advent calendar. So cheap it started falling apart so I had to give it to him two days early (wouldn't have survived being wrapped in a plastic bag ). I'm not bothered about calendars, never have been as I don't like chocolate. Even the smell at the wrong time of day makes me feel really sick. I eat maybe two brands of chocolate, sparingly. DP knows this.

He came home on the 30th with one that - he freely admitted - he had panic bought as he is stressed. Its wonderful: I didn't realise as he's chosen one with my favourite childhood character and I thought it was deliberate

I've tried the chocolate - put it off until he began to get a bit upset yesterday evening that I hadn't opened it - and it tastes just as horrible, to me, as I thought it would. This is wholly my tastebuds, I just hate chocolate. I haven't eaten it today. It's staring at me from the chair. DP has already mentioned that I haven't eaten it.

Do I:

a) tell the truth. He is massively stressed at the minute and I think would be hurt. He loves chocolate so potentially would eat all the chocolate for me, problem solved.

b) lie. Open every day when he goes out and put it at the bottom of the bin. I have never lied to him before, even about something small.

I think a) may be U but I'm not sure. This is so trivial it's embarrassing but he is having such a shit time at work I don't want to be mean/rude however I am having a hard time with the concept of lying.

I've probably got about twenty minutes before he comes back and I have to do something.

I'm confused about this. He knows you don't like chocolate yet he would be upset? How would it be unreasonable to say "I love the calendar, reminds me of the magic of childhood Christmas, & lucky you getting all the chocolate!"

That's pretty much it. We even had a discussion the other day about how I only like two types. I think he only bought it because he's been stressed and not thinking properly. Examples would out me - very specific - but he really hasn't been thinking. Socks in dishwasher sort of behaviour.

Will phrase it how you put it as it sounds much less negative than 'I don't like this'

Is he really stressed right now? If not just tell him to eat your chocolate from it - he's not going to mind!

And you've just reminded me I must open my advent calendar before DP thinks I don't like (even though she specifically bought one of the few types of chocolate I do eat - but there's no room in the fridge or freezer for an advent calendar)

Just open it while he's there, say "Ooh, only 23 more sleeps", ask him to open his mouth, pop it in his gob and give him a kiss. So you are enjoying the calendar, but not eating the chocolate.

Advent calendars for adults? YABU unless you give me one too

Are you serious? An advent calendar? Wish I had this sort of thing to worry about

Curious - how/why do you make an advent calendar, when you can buy one for a pound?

Of course this is not the only thing I am worrying about, far from it , but it's the one thing I can resolve right now.

Okay, I see it's not U to tell him the truth and particularly like LeBOF's idea

Because I thought I could reuse it. I really wanted to get one of those nice ones but I couldn't afford it. This cost me about £4 plus 30p for sweets to go in it. Didn't realise until I unpacked it just how much £4 had bought me and that I will probably need to buy another next year. False economy, but lesson learned.

*Nice, reusable ones.

It's an advent calendar. This is the biggest non problem I have seen in a while! Do you always do this? And monitor whether each other opens it?
You know, I'm just bitter and jealous that this is the extent of your marital strife! Just give him the chocolate, it's no big deal.

You made him an advent calendar , and that wasn't good enough so you had to get another one? And he bought you a chocolate advent calendar with your favourtite childhood character on it, and now you have to pretend you like to eat cheap chocolate every day or there will be hurt feelings?

Do you also own a navy blue velour winnie the pooh tracksuit - because if I do then I know you and you are a loon. If not, you are still a loon. HTH.

BTW you can post chocolate to me, even of the cheapest variety, to the following address: The ProvincialLady, 31 Eats Too Much Chocolate, Is Mean, BL8 8GH.

Im still not getting it.

I must admit to also boggling at the not liking chocolate - but I know thats just me.

Basically - its small stuff, dont get your knickers in a twist.

What about putting the chocolate that you get on his pillow?

I don't like chocolate, DP knows this, but there are some occassions where he is allowed to buy me chocolate for me to give back to him, as I would have forgotten he actually likes it IYSWIM

Told him. Did LeBOF's suggestion, he was put out for about five seconds that I didn't like it and is now happily tinkering with the TV.

Clearly I need to learn to relax more.

I like it floweryblue - will definitely do that in the future (to be fair I've sometimes stolen a bit of his chocolate if I've bought him my favourite) :)

You're rather charmingly odd OP
But I'm glad he's pleased.

See, a happy ending for a Friday night.