DS's dad and Christmas presents

[IWannaBeTheMinority]

DS (12, almost 13) has asked for a mobile phone for christmas. He has shown me the one he wants but he's also asked his dad for it. For the past few weeks I have been trying to find out if his dad is buying him it and he will not give me a straight answer.

AIBU to ask one more time and then tell him I'm buying it? I want to get all my presents bought but can't whilst he's faffing around like this. It probably comes across like I'm nagging him now because I've asked so many times but if he just gave me a straight answer I wouldn't need to !

YANBU - I would do exactly as you suggested. You need to know to ensure he gets one, rather than 2 or not one at all. Just tell him so.

At 12 I would hold off buying it, and wait and see. Then if his dad doesn't get it you get to sigh, commiserate, and buy one in the sale. Win/win for you, and your DS still gets his phone but hopefully you'll save money and can buy him extra minutes or something for it too.

I'd also tell your ds that as you can't get a straight answer out of his ex that you don't want him to end up with two phones and see if there's anything he wants. And then if he doesn't get it then there's always the sales!

I'd probably just go ahead and get it, then sort out returning one if that's possible, after Christmas.

How about making up a voucher for your DS saying "One Phone" and say that you wanted him to go with you to get the right one - then you're covered if his father doesn't buy it.