WIBU to go for a coffee with a new bloke whilst DS was with me?

[SirBoobAlot]

So. Yesterday, DS fell asleep in the buggy, and I took the oppotunity to finish off last bits of xmas shopping for weekend away starting Friday. In a little shop, got talking to the guy in there, as present advice, and then just chatting. Easy to talk to, funny, bright, easy on the eye - really just very pleasent. So I did something most unlike me, and asked if he would like to get a drink sometime. He said he'd love to, and was I busy now.
We had a lovely cup of tea and a chat. DS slept for almost an hour, and we left shortly after he woke up - guy walked us to bus stop, kiss on the cheek, with promises to text.
Told my mum about him earlier (excitied, but playing cool - okay, we've been texting non stop ) and she did her silence-so-you-know-i-disapprove-thing.
Was I unreasonable? I don't - or didn't - think I was. Wasn't like I got totted up for a hot date and took DS along. Circamstances just happened to work. Thing is, as a single mum, your "me" time is so small, if you don't meet someone whilst out with your DC, its virtually impossible, surely?
Anyway. So, was I unreasonable?

Lisaro - thank you for clarifying. For what its worth, it was a very public cafe, I haven't told him my surname, where I live... I have BPD, so very prone to paranoid thinking. I get where you are coming from.
Thank you for the reassurance. As I 7aid, I will be being cautious WRT DS. He's a very social little boy and is used to meeting new people - I have recently got in touch with a lot of old friends, plus am a peer supporter. But yes, I will certaioly be careful.
We are meeting today whilst DS is at playschool :-) only for an hour due to work. But am looking forward to it.

I can't see any reason why not and I'm usually very cautious. As far as I can see, unless you shagged him on the Caffe Nero sofas you just had a coffee with a friend. The fact that it was a new friend and might turn into something else is by the by.

slavetofilofax Why can't you have a spontaneous coffee with a man! someone because you have a DS who might be old enough to understand that he's a man! someone new?

Moving a new man into your house I can see why you want to step carefully, not meeting them for coffee, is ludicrous!

Hope you had a lovely time, will vet him next time I'm down

It's not clear from your OP that your dissaproves of your son being there or that you kind of picked up a guy in a shop. Mums simply worry about that sort of thing and she probably doesn't understand how hard it is to meet someone new these days. Well done you for being so brave and I really hope it leads to something x

I think in the circumstances you describe it was fine.

I think it's fine. Not sure about meeting guys in shops though. Saying that I have a friend who met her husband in Tesco, and he's very lovely.

YANBU. I have done it myself. When I was a single mum to ds and dp and I had just met we took the kids (his youngest dd and my ds) on a bike ride and for a picnic. Nowt wrong with it, we kissed too but out of sight of the kids

good for you (envious) it was a coffee, a pre curser to a proper date not an intro to your new daddy ds ffs. op go for it with all the sensible precautions anyone should take when embarking on a new relationship. well done for having the nerve to ask him out that is brilliant hope it goes well in the future.

Well done for asking him out! I tried the same many years ago with the guy who sold me my first mobile phone - he said he would love to but his girlfriend would kill him so he would have to decline I still cringe when I think about it!

YANBU at all - how very exciting! Hope all goes well and enjoy it!

Bloody good luck to you! :)

I've gone for a coffee with a man I didn't really know with Dd in tow (very public place).

Windows of opportunity are often very limited for us lone parents.

Good on you SBAL - doesn't sound UR at all. The Coffee man knows you have a child now (so will hopefully be understanding if you can't see him every 5 mins) and you get to have a little adult conversation whilst DS is asleep.

Good luck to you. Wouldn't have been any different if he'd been sitting at a table and you got chatting.