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AIBU?

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WIBU to ask nanny to take dd to doctors in a.m?

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Jacksterbear · 30/11/2011 22:37

For a chesty cough and wheeze (she already has inhaler; may need antibiotics) . Neither dh nor I can get time off work easily, could do though if absolutely necessary. Not sure if it's a reasonable request of a nanny though. What do u think?

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Jacksterbear · 30/11/2011 22:42

P. S. The w is for would not was - I haven't asked yet.

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MissMerrynder · 30/11/2011 22:42

Depends on how professional your contract is, I guess.

If I were a Nanny, I would take her, as long as any shortfall in other expected errands/jobs was accepted.

Thinking about it, I would rather take her to the doctor than not and risk her deteriorating in my care later in the day. Conversely, if it was that bad, I would expect a parent to take her.

How old is DD?

YANBU to ask, but YWBU to expect an immediate affirmative reply.

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Jacksterbear · 30/11/2011 22:46

Thanks for reply missm. She is 14mths. I don't think she is dangerously ill at all but do think she needs to see a doc to see if she needs abs for her chest.

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MissMerrynder · 30/11/2011 22:50

If you don't think it's really serious, I'm sure Nanny wouldn't mind- bit of a trip out and maybe a coffee for her

That is presuming you're not usually a domestic despot!

MogandMe · 30/11/2011 22:51

I am a nanny. I see that as being part and parcel of my job. I would ask her.

Shiregirl · 30/11/2011 23:01

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lemonandhoney · 30/11/2011 23:11

Our nanny used to do this, no question. I would only go if I was worried about a child. But for standard ailments it was very much part of her job.

MogandMe · 30/11/2011 23:12

I have a letter from my current boss saying I can attend/make doctors appointments with my charge. Previously I have not needed any letter and Drs would see me despite me only being the nanny.

How does the doctor know it's not mum anyway - half the time I get this from doctors, people we meet etc and my charge corrects them.

HandMini · 30/11/2011 23:13

Of course it's part of the nanny's job. I don't see any question about that.

marriedandwreathedinholly · 30/11/2011 23:14

If she's a properly trained, professional nanny then I think it is part of her job. If the dr recommends review at hospital though I think you have to be ready to down tools and return to your dd.

HandMini · 30/11/2011 23:18

What does it matter whether she's "properly trained and professional". If she's the child's carer for the day and the parents ask her to take the child for an appointment, be that doctor, dentist, playdate, whatever, I don't see why that would be an issue. Of course if the doctor appointment turned into an A&E visit or whatever, parents should be involved, but just for a GP appointment, you are absolutely NBU to ask the nanny to do this.

ScarfOfSexualPreference · 01/12/2011 07:21

YANBU- as a nanny, its just a part of my job. Luckily my current family live next door to the drs! In all my jobs taking charges to drs for appointments, making appointments, and in some cases taking them to a + e have been a normal part of the job.

Sparklingbrook · 01/12/2011 07:33

Can the nanny sign the prescription?

Laquitar · 01/12/2011 07:40

Of course it is fine. It is part of the job.

Hope your dd gets well soon.

chandellina · 01/12/2011 07:41

it's part of the job IMO. Our nanny has taken my son to loads of appointments.

NinkyNonker · 01/12/2011 07:41

I would have thought it were part of the job?

shemademedoit · 01/12/2011 07:48

I think it's fine to ask/get her to do it. The only time i ever had a problem was when I asked my nanny to take LO for his jabs: she took him but he couldn't have them as I'd forgotten to provide a note saying I was Ok with him having them done and had asked her to take him.

Catslikehats · 01/12/2011 07:55

Absolutely part of the job, so shoul be no issue from the nanny's pov.

lambethlil · 01/12/2011 07:58

Part of her job, but make sure you're contactable in case the GP sends her to A&E to screen out Bronchitis.

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Jacksterbear · 01/12/2011 07:58

Thanks for your replies. Atm we are waiting to ring at 8.30 to see what time apptmt we get; my mum might be able to take her depending on time.

shemademe, nanny said she would rather not take dd for mmr a few weeks ago as she found it too upsetting and had got her dp to take their own dd. She would have done if we had insisted but we didn't think that would be fair to her or dd, so dh took her.

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Jacksterbear · 01/12/2011 09:06

All sorted, nanny happy to take her. Thanks for your thoughts.

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MogandMe · 01/12/2011 22:14

shemademe - hope appointment went well. I have had to take a lot of my charges for jabs and yes it can be upsetting to see them in pain etc it's part of my job. I did feel really bad in the summer when my current charge had his pre-school boosters - I think I was more upset than him

Pseudonym99 · 01/12/2011 22:25

The doctor may not treat or perform any examination without parental consent. You may want to write to the doctoor in advance to inform them you have delegated your consent responsibilty to the nanny.

BoysBoysBoysAndMe · 01/12/2011 22:45

Well, I am obviously in the minority, but whether your Nanny can take your DD to the Dr's or not, why would you not take the time off to go? I understand it may be difficult to get time off, but she is your daughter.

She's only 14 months old still.

Therefore I feel YABU.

Theas18 · 01/12/2011 22:50

Not unreasonable as long as you give written consent to examination and treatment and pretty please a decently detailed note giving the history.

Your GP isn't a vet- he needs to know stuff like how well she slept/ is she eating/ is shehaving the inhaler ok/ is it working etc. just listening to her chest without any history is pretty useless.

In theory he could refuse to treat without written consent - its a very difficult ethical area. Treating to save life without consent is easy, giving vac without written consent - def not but th middle ground is grey , especially if it's a shall we use antibiotics or not - here are the possible benefits and here are the problems type of chat.

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