to tell DH that if he wants to sleep in the evening he should go to bed?

[HexagonalQueenOfTheSummer]

Every evening, without fail, DH falls asleep on the sofa or in the chair, by 9pm at the latest. He starts work early so it's fair enough that he is tired early. However, he then wakes from his doze every 10 or 20 minutes and tells me to turn the TV down as he's trying to sleep. We don't have the TV on loudly anyway, as the DC are all in bed. Last night took the biscuit as he dozed for half an hour, woke up and told me to turn the TV off and "read or something" as he was "trying to sleep"

AIBU for telling him to go to bed if he wants to sleep in a quiet place? He thinks I am and was most put out that I wouldn't turn the TV off.

My DH falls asleep on the sofa a lot too BUT if my evening's TV viewing is disturbing his sleep, he knows where the bed is.

Your DH INBU for falling asleep, but is BVU to expect you to turn the TV down because its disturbing him, if he wants to be undisturbed he should go to bed.

If my DH falls asleep he gets sent to bed. There is no way I would turn the TV off. He is being totally unreasonable

I don't have a problem with him falling asleep, like I said he wakes really early for work so totally understandable that come 9pm he is tired. I'm more of a night owl and up until midnight most nights. I don't usually sit down until 9pm after doing all the bedtimes, bathtimes, cleaning the kitchen, packed lunches etc, so then i like to sit down and watch a bit of TV.

yanbu - why should you have your evening curtailed just cos he's dozing.

I don't suppose there's a tv in your bedroom? As that's where I'd go - half asleep people are rarely rational.

he is being U.

next time he says it ask him to cart the tv upstairs for you so you can watch it without disturbing him.

Even though normally I like a dozey dad on the couch of an evening - makes the place look homely

There is a TV in our room Laurie but it's not got freeview or Sky on it, so it's a bit boring up there

Haha Sal, yes I agree about a dozing dad. My dad was just the same when I was a child.

Yanbu - he is. Tell he-who-must-be-obeyed to do one.

YANBU, obviously. Bedrooms are for sleeping, living rooms are for living (e.g. watching tv) in.

Tell him to fuck off go off to bed as he's disturbing your telly watching. My DH usually falls asleep for an hour or so in the evenings but he wakes up if you turn the telly over or the volume down!!

YANBU

If he wants to sleep, he should go to bed.

Did I mention that he snores too? Very loudly. And when I tell him to stop snoring he denies it and says I'm imagining it. Gah!

My DH also falls asleep on the sofa - in fact we picked the particular sofa we have for its ability to be slept on - but he'd never tell me to turn the TV down or off (he's too busy snuffling and drooling onto the cushions...)

YANBU, if he wants quiet sleep then he goes to bed.

Kill him.....it's for the best.

Is he well insured? ;)

Hexagonal give me my husband back!

The snoring drives me mad. I'm sick of hearing my voice "stop snoring." "Oi, stop snoring." "Go to bed if you're tired."

Every. Night.

I have no problem with DH napping on the settee, but if he woke up to tell me to turn the noise down he'd be in big trouble!

snoring is not good.
(that's because of the way he sits when he's dozing - DH doesn't snore, but every noe and then he will, and I pinch his nose. Tough if it wakes him!)

Mine goes to sleep on the settee, he rarely SITS in it anyway, he always lies prostrate - any time of day. When he goes to sleep and snores at multi decibel level, I get so annoyed that the enamel comes off my teeth. This I can just about take. What really annoys me is when I want to read in bed and I am called totally selfish for keeping my bedside light on as he can't get to sleep. This is someone who can sleep through loud tv, I have to turn it up the hear what the f*ck is going on.

yanbu he IS, if he wants to sleep and the tv is disturbing him then he can go to bed simple!!

my dp falls asleep on the sofa as well, he doesnt however moan about the noise of the tv, instead he snores so bloody loudly that i cant hear the tv, drives me mad!

My husband falls asleep on the sofa almost every night by 9pm. He is up at 5am and works 12 hour days, so I understand he is knackered...

but by the time I have found the tv remote that he is either clutching, or laying on, thrown a few things at him to stop him snoring, made the dog sit on him (25kg of bouncing staffie).. he will go to bed for some peace.

What drives me mad is, he can sleep through most of the above, yet if I quietly read in bed, with my very dim lamp on, the light and the page turning keeps him awake

My dad does this when he comes to stay. it's totally weird and inflexible. he's always snoring by 8ish, but absolutely refuses to go to bed before 10pm. he doesn't complain about the telly tho. but i complain at length about the snoring, to no avail.

atosilis what you need is a clip on book light