to still be upset about this?

[deburca]

Basically this is what happened at the weekend. Was in a pub with DH, he introduced me to this guy - we will say his name is John, knows him as they used to live beside one another, anyway we were all in a group, now I will stress that im not a prude, can listen to a dirty joke with the best of them but draw the line at going over the line if you get my drift. Im quite busty and I had been teased earlier about it - I had actually asked one of the guys to stop as I was sensitive about it.

Anyway we were quite merry at this stage and we decided to go home, on leaving this John person attempts to unwrap the throw I was wearing as if to look at them. I was LIVID!!, slapped his hands away and told him to stop.

we were sharing a cab home with one of the other guys and I was so embarrassed I waited until I got home to tell my dh. He was shocked and said he would make a point of getting in touch with him about it.

I dont know why (a) im still annoyed and (b) why I was so embarrassed that I didnt want to tell my dh in front of the other guy - its annoyed me big time - tell me to get over it - am I being a muppet?

kouklaMoo sorry I fell asleep mid reply last nite, have a cold so a bit muggy head wise, apologies.

I dont think honestly that some people get it - its the same as saying that if you are raped and are wearing a short skirt that you were "asking for it" albeit that is more serious obviously.

What annoys me are the people who say you are overreacting - maybe I am to a certain degree but surely that behaviour isnt on generally.

No that behaviour isn't on, it's completely out of order. You were right to ask them to tone the earlier behaviour down a bit too if it was making you feel uncomfortable.

I swear occasionally but if I was with someone who never swore and didn't like it I would never deliberately swear in front of them. I'd have more respect for them and their feelings.

Im alot less upset about it tonite actually. I just think - what a tosser to do that to someone - im sure I will be a little embarrassed next time I go into that bar - must from the point of view that if anyone saw him they would remember that It was me he was in appropriate with.

He had no right really to make me feel that way - no wonder he is single if thats what he is getting up to!!

thanks for all your kind words.

I'm glad you updated tonight as I've been shouting 'why is she embarrassed and not fucking furious?' at the screen for the past 10 minutes.

And for those posters who think you're prissy or a prude or whatever - when should she have objected? When he'd untied her top? When he had her hands on her breasts? When he unhooked her bra?

FFS.