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To be upset and annoyed that I'm not doing anything festive?

27 replies

catchafallingstar · 27/11/2011 18:55

we had agreed with friends to go to a ceilidh at a local hall on new years eve (bring own food and drink) - would cost £20 per adult and £6 a child (under 5's free). Cost was to cover the band and hall hire for them playing on new years eve. It is a family event, people bringing games etc to amuse kids and their own food and a chance for families to get together on this night without needing a babysitter.
So we reserved tickets.
Dh has now decided we ate not going ad you don't get anything for your money - you need to bring own food and drink....
Well, yes.........but for all the reasons outlined above.

So looks like same old stuck in on new years eve watching crap tv and can't even have friends round cause they're at the ceilidh.....

I work from homesp 'work christmS night out' but usually all my girl friends arrange a night between us, except it's the same night as Dh's work Christmas night out, which he has admitted he doesn't really want to go to,but has to!
I on the other hand would love to go to my girly night out but can't be aide of his night out and no babysitter. At least I had my new years eve night out to look forward to ......- bah!!!!

I feel really pissed off, annoyed and embarrassed that I'm going to have to tell my friend some excuse about why we don't need the ceilidh tickets.....

OP posts:
muffinflop · 27/11/2011 18:58

Miserable sod. Go without him!

lostlady · 27/11/2011 18:59

YANBU; I know how you feel aboug nothing festive to do and that sounds great idea.

Can't you go on own with dcs? Least be chance to dress up and have some fun..

OhCobblers · 27/11/2011 18:59

balls to that - go on your own on NYE - he's being selfish about it.

WhereYouLeftIt · 27/11/2011 19:02

"Dh has now decided we are not going"
Who died and made him God? Why is it his decision, and his decision alone?

If he doesn't want to go, fine - that's no reason that you and DC can't still go.

BupcakesandCunting · 27/11/2011 19:04

He's decided for all of you, has he?

Tell him to enjoy his Findus frozen ready meal for one and you'll enjoy a night out with your children and friends.

Miserable git!

squeakytoy · 27/11/2011 19:05

Go without him, leave him to sit at home and be miserable.

alphabetti · 27/11/2011 19:05

Your DH sounds like he has his grumpy pants on. He really should be considering your feelings too. Is there nobody else who could babysit so you could go on your girls night also? Grandparent, auntie, uncle or a friends trusted teen?

You deserve a bit of festive fun too. You do not have to feel embarrased about telling friends you no longer require the tickets. They will prob just feel sorry for you that your DH is being a pain about it, they won't think badly of you.

If I were you though I would go with your friends on new years eve and let your DH sit watching the telly with a micro meal for one.

LovingChristmas · 27/11/2011 19:08

With the others, it would be see you later DH, enjoy your crap TV, and then depending on how I feel as I missed my Xmas party because of his, and depending how many children would be there, it would be, kids are sorted DP, I'm off on my own! :)

Hassled · 27/11/2011 19:10

FGS - read this back to yourself. Your DH can sit at home watching Jools Holland on his own and good luck to him. You can go and have a laugh with your mates. Do you always do what he decides? Sometimes it is OK to insist on something.

manticlimactic · 27/11/2011 19:10

As I said on the other thread < thought I had a bit of deja vu for a moment>

I'd leave him on his own or say 'Well you don't want to go to this but you have to!'

It's not fair that you should have to sit in on NYE being bored to tears because he doesn't want to go.

Original poster
catchafallingstar · 27/11/2011 19:13

Not know why it's posted twice, sorry!
But yes you are right.
I am going to go with the children.

OP posts:
A1980 · 27/11/2011 19:17

FGS it's only new years eve!

Comments such as: It's not fair that you should have to sit in on NYE being bored to tears because he doesn't want to go. Huh?

I NEVER do anything for new year. What for? Put on a festive hat and celebrate the fact that the earth has circled the sun one more time. Do you think it wont make it this time? What's to celebrate.

I happily spend NYE on my sofa. It's only a date like any other.

usualsuspect · 27/11/2011 19:18

The OP does want to do something though

Go and have a ball OP

cardibach · 27/11/2011 19:22

It's OK if you do it happily. If you do it miserably, not so much. It doesn't really matter what the occasion is, the OP wants to go out with friends and her Dh is being a grumpy knickers about it.
Go out - he can stay in if he wants to.

BupcakesandCunting · 27/11/2011 19:24

Well, that's up to you A1980!

Why don't you pop round to OP's house on NYE? You can watch The Inspector Linley Mysteries with her DH then lights out at 10pm.

dementedma · 27/11/2011 19:26

A1980 - thought I was the only one who felt like that about New Year. fecking miserable cold, dark time of year, just another day on the calendar for me.

manticlimactic · 27/11/2011 19:27

I NEVER do anything for new year.

Neither do I for the same reasons as you A1980 but the OP does!

Sirzy · 27/11/2011 19:28

A1980 - I hate NYE and never do anything for it, however I wouldn't expect other people to not go to a party just because I don't want to which is what the OPs husband seems to expect.

Actually, your party sounds like a lot of fun and the type even a NYE misery like me could be tempted to!!

I agree with others, tell him you and the children are going if he wants to join you great if not then he can stay home alone.

SantaDesperatelySeeksSedatives · 27/11/2011 19:29

YAY! Leave the miserable old so and so to it!

ENormaSnob · 27/11/2011 19:39

I'm not keen on nye either but I'm not a miserable twat that would stop everyone else from going.

slavetofilofax · 27/11/2011 19:52

Erm, you do realise that your dh isn't your boss and you can go without his permission right?

Lilyloo · 27/11/2011 19:57

What a shame OP , it won't be the same without dh but if he won't come what can you do ?
On the other hand we are doing something similair , hiring a local wmc and a dad dj , take your own food and are charging 15 pound a ticket , there is a bar. It is a little expensive imo for hire of a hall.

Lilyloo · 27/11/2011 19:58

15 pound a 'family' ticket

EightiesChick · 27/11/2011 20:08

Thing is, everything is expensive on NYE. That's one of its downsides. So relatively speaking it's a good price esp if a family-friendly event.

I haven't gone out out on NYE for many years, and now I have a small DC I don't expect to for many more. Best option for me and DH has always been either to go to someone else's houseparty (preferably where you could stay over) or to get people over to ours and have them stay over - this is the option we go for now. It is nice to do something festive while being sensible about it.

I think the ceilidh sounds great. Definitely go without your DH, OP, if he insists on being a misery. But somehow I think he may come round by the night, if he realises he'll be home on his tod...

LittleJennyRobyn · 27/11/2011 20:32

You are a right barrell of laughs 1980!!!

We stopped doing New Year several years ago for one reason and another. Also cant drink alcohol anymore which doesn't help. So are happy to stay in with a takeaway these days

But that said if i could drink alcohol the the ceilidh would be right up my street, and i'd be there in a heartbeat

If i were you op would go with the kids and leave your Dh's miserable backside at home, when he realises that you are quite willing to go without him, i can bet your bottom dollar he will soon change his mind, as he will be worried he's missing something.

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