To be upset and annoyed that I'm not doing anything festive?

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we had agreed with friends to go to a ceilidh at a local hall on new years eve (bring own food and drink) - would cost £20 per adult and £6 a child (under 5's free). Cost was to cover the band and hall hire for them playing on new years eve. It is a family event, people bringing games etc to amuse kids and their own food and a chance for families to get together on this night without needing a babysitter.
So we reserved tickets.
Dh has now decided we ate not going ad you don't get anything for your money - you need to bring own food and drink....
Well, yes.........but for all the reasons outlined above.

So looks like same old stuck in on new years eve watching crap tv and can't even have friends round cause they're at the ceilidh.....

I work from homesp 'work christmS night out' but usually all my girl friends arrange a night between us, except it's the same night as Dh's work Christmas night out, which he has admitted he doesn't really want to go to,but has to!
I on the other hand would love to go to my girly night out but can't be aide of his night out and no babysitter. At least I had my new years eve night out to look forward to ......- bah!!!!

I feel really pissed off, annoyed and embarrassed that I'm going to have to tell my friend some excuse about why we don't need the ceilidh tickets.....

Cant you just leave him at home to grump on his own?

Why don't you go and leave old misery guts home on his own?

I'd leave him on his own or say 'Well you don't want to go to this but you have to!'

It's not fair that you should have to sit in on NYE being bored to tears because he doesn't want to go.

Persuade him-he is being a Scrooge-tell him you are going with your dc and all festive food and drink and the tv remote-he can sit at home and sulk.

Do you have to do what he says?

Sounds pretty cheap to me for a NYE do tbh.

And another for the leave him at home.

Can't you book a babysitter for your girls night? And go to New Years Eve on your own.

Do you always give in to what he wants?

Let the miserable shit stay in on his own, you go to the yew years eve thing

tuts at the sensible suggestions

that would prevent martyrdom wouldnt it

tuts again

I bet if you say you're going, he'll tow the line andcome along too!

Yep, another for leave him at home.

Tell him he's welcome to the tv on NYE but that you and the kids want to go out.

I don't think it's really necessary that all family members do the same thing at all times. Presumably you will be spending Christmas together as a family? So shouldn't be a problem that you split up on NYE [although I suspect that old misery guts will give in and come when he realises he will be left at home alone with only Jools Holland for company ]

Or stay at home. And profit from it all year, a la martyr (as suggested up thread)