Am I a really boring person? feel a bit shit :(

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I went out last night with 2 friends. I'm 30, they're 26 and 28 so we're all similar ages.

So the night consisted of drinking at one of the friend's house from 6pm until 8pm (I didn't drink much here, the other two were on wine and sour shots and were starting to get tipsy before we even left the house). We then went in taxi to a pub. Now I enjoyed this bit, good music, a bit of sillyness - however it became apparant that the whole intention of the night for the other two was to "Pull" - que them trying to make eye contact and smile at every bloke that walkd past. I thought we were starting to look really desperate. I don't like getting drunk so bought myself a lemonade. Went to toilet, came back to taste vodka in my lemonade. They outright denied it but obviously had done it. IMO you don't just tip alcohol into someone's drink when they are making a concious effort not to get drunk. Am I right or am I a boring old fart?

Later we walked across to a pub opposite (which was ok but a tad 'dead') and then on to an indie night club type place (a small one, not a major club). I liked it in here, good music, we had a dance, I sipped a cocktail with them - I was enjoying myself but no - not enough "fit blokes" in there apparantly so they wanted to move on to the 'big' nightclub. Big queue outside, large entrance fee, we didn't even get here until midnight. When we got in it was like sardines in a tin, it stunk of sweat and poo, the place is notoriously filthy. I got charged more for a bottle of water than my friend got charged for a smirnoff ice. We managed to find a table tucked away in a corner and I just sat and watched as drunk women fell flat on their faces, drunk men fell flat on their backs, bouncers diving on guys that were starting to get in each others' faces, guys getting too drunk and doing stupid stuff like throwing huge leather stools at each other, drinks getting tipped all over - not a nice sight. No wonder A&E is so busy on a friday and saturday night.

From here on out the night consisted of being chatted up by a persistant bloke, my friends dancing provokatively with random men trying to "get laid" and me sat there feeling SOOOO out of place/bored/uncomfortable. I assumed the place would shut at 2am so hung out until then - I then learnt that the place didn't shut until 4am. Absolutely ridiculous when people were already hammered at 2am. I couldn't really leave the group as it would have meant going home on my own (bit dodgy around here). 2am I asked when we were leaving and was told "in a minute". 2.30am I ask again - "in a minute". 3am I ask again "in a minute" - we didn't end up leaving until 3.30am.

Shit night. No doubt they all think I'm a boring old fart. Am I?? Is it normal for single women in their late 20s/early 30s to just go out on the pull like this? To drink until they pass out etc?

I almost felt a bit upset over it this morning. Am I a freak?! I came in at 3.45 stone sober with a massive headache caused by shit music and exhaustion.

Nope not boring. My idea of hell. Prefer quiet pub for girly chats with like minded people.

Odd time I get hankering for a bit of a dance but usually satisfy it by putting on music channel and dancing round my living room. Drink is cheaper and only person who sees me is dh and he doesn't mind me making a fool of myself.

I would have made my excuses and left!

Especially if they spiked your drink. At least it was only vodka.

Actually ... I posted and went away and thought, but I really would struggle with people who spiked my drink. You could be on medication that's not allowed with alcohol, how would they know? You could have drunk it without knowing, jumped in your car and driven home.

Are you planning to say something? I can see they were drunk and obviously didn't realize how boring their behaviour was, but once sober they really should know it's not ok.

It sounds like your friends will be well on their way to having liver problems at a young age. I don't think you are boring, as someone on here commented, just on a different page. Actually, I like that, might pinch it.

No you're not boring imo.

Spiking drinkk is absolutely NOT ok.

I'm 30 and last time I was in a club I was 23 on my hen night! From 19-23 I loved all that (not the pulling, was with dh) but I outgrew it.

At 24-29 I would say most of my friends were still clubbing and on the pull but now they've all settled down pretty much.

Ok now your night out sounds like hell on earth to me but I am 38 and married with a child. However late twenties I was single and had plenty of nights out like the one you describe full of drunkenness and frivolity. Sounds like you need to find other friends who have similar interests to you now.

I'm much much too old to comment but it sounds utterly ghastly and I would have have thought so 25 years ago when I was closer to your age. Don't think you were at the sort of places where you would have met men worth meeting.

I'm 36 and still enjoy the occasional night out drinking and dancing but I would never throw myself at men and do not give monkeys about pulling (never did even when I was younger). Also while I may sometimes get a bit drunk, as in a bit giggly or over enthusiastic on the dance floor, I don't see the value in setting out just to get pissed or to get so pissed you can't function or remember what you've done.
It all sounds a bit tawdry and desperate and you're well out of it.

p.s. spiking a drink is definitely not on and is bordering on assault.

I've had very similar nights to yours OP lately, am 29 friends all same age roughly (25-30). I'm single but just not that desperate for a random drunken bloke's attention, don't like heavy drinking sessions any more, don't like spending a fortune on a shit night out, won't queue in the cold, etc etc. I think it's that I started early on the drinking and clubbing, got it out of my system and then grew up.

I would be very annoyed at the sneaking vodka into your drink, that is out of order. None of my friends would dream of doing that! I often alternate between alcohol and soft drinks as I'm just not a big drinker anymore. I may get a bit of a short light hearted ribbing but wouldn' get anypressure of them slipping something into my drink!

Could you not have called and booked a taxi home?

I do occasionally still go out with my friends who still enjoy this kind of night out but I usually bow out at about 1 or 2, getting a taxi home which will pick me up from outside (usually there is another like minded person out too and we usually bow out early together if both out).

I love clubbing, will drink a lot and dance until 4am quite happily.

This only applies in very specific places usually metal or alternative clubs that arn't too big.

Some friends took me to an Oceania about a year ago and I HATED it, it was boring, expensive, packed with lecherous blokes and shit music. I bailed early on so as to not spoil my mates night and thourouhly enjoyed being in bed by 1am.

Sounds awful. Next time, before you carry on, do try to find out beforehand how much a minicab would cost, and as you start getting pissed off, just keep reviewing that versus how much you would spend if you continued with the evening to the bitter end. It might work out cheaper, or the same, to just go home as you want to! You will resent your friends less, and may actually be spared nights out like this in future.

If you don't see them at any time other than for these binges of theirs (yes, theirs, not yours), you're losing them as friends anyway.

And the drink spiking was very mean, stupid and feckless of them. So what if they were pissed off! The feeling by then, no doubt, was quite mutual!

being with drunks when you are sober is dreadfully boring, i agree

but if they are having a good time and you keep nagging on about going home, when we going home, what time we going home, thats dreadfully boring for them too

so in essence, im sure you arent boring nor are they, just looking for different ideas of a good evening out

No, not boring. Grown up.

Real mates wouldn't dream of spiking your drink ...

IMO there is a big diff between 26 and 30. There's nothing wrong or unusual about them wanting to go out to clubs on the pull( but the spiking was totally not on). You are just at a diff life stage. What did u expect?

Well the night was supposed to be about staying in the indie club until 2am. It was whilst we were already out that talk of going to the other club started. I should have just come home after the indie club but I knew I'd get the rolling eyes and "god you're so boring" comments so I tried to last out the night. In "my day" clubs did NOT stay open until 4am!! if I'd known that I wouldn't have gone in anyway.

I would be enraged at the drink spiking attempt. It's stupid, irresponsible, morally rephrensible and in no way the act of a real friend. I don't drink and rarely go out to club type places - yet when I do, my (drinking, single and flirting, last-out-the-door-at-4am) friends accept and respect that I'll be on diet coke, will not be pulling anyone, and might decide I want to go home before they do. They don't think I'm boring, they just understand that I have a different life from some of them and that's ok because they're my friends. It sounds like you might need some friends who are either more like you or to try and get your friends to see that their behaviour is absolutely not on.

I could write your post OP, I'm 8 years younger than you! It's just different things for different people, you're best off finding someone who suits you more but I know how difficult it is, virtually impossible actually! I've been friendless for years because I can't seem to find people not like this!

You should have the confidence to leave if you're ready to go home. Ignore any "You're boring" comments. Just go when you're ready. I used to have a bit of a reputation for being a lightweight, going home early, drinking soft drinks etc, but it was all meant in fun and I didn't take offence at it. If my friends had made it clear that they didn't like my approach, I'd have gradually moved on to other friends, rather than trying to fit in and do something I wasn't enjoying.

The spiking the drink thing was totally off.
I hate getting really drunk, and I can't stand being with people who are wasted.
However, I love going out dancing, and still go to clubs (just not shit ones) now, with my single mates, and we are between 34 and 37!
I can't be doing with the "pulling" thing though. At your age we used to be on the prowl all the time, but now we have just given up grown up a bit.

My idea of hell, i'm not really a drinker tbh and have only ever ventured into a niteclub once.

But then again I like going ten pin bowling with my friends

You don't sound boring to me either. It just sounds like some immature friends I used to have when I was in my teens and right up to my late twenties. That kind of behaviour is fun for some and not for others - it takes all sorts to make a world.

I think there's quite a difference between 26 and 30. I'm 23, most my friends are a couple of years older. Nights out are often quite similar apart from the 'getting laid' bit - we'll have pre-lash, get utterly sh*tted and dance like fools but none of us are interested in being groped by random men or going home with any of them. That would seem desperate and awful. But then my friends and I don't really go in for one night stands.

You're not boring at all. You just want different things. I might go and get as drunk as your friends and dance til 6am but I'd rather be going home sober than hooking up with some bloke in a bar.