to be unable to move because

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AIBU to be unable to move because

I fear change. My life at the moment is of loneliness. I know what I need to do but I can?t / wont because of my child. My dc is doing extremely well at school, this is due to my supoort. This academic year, I haven?t supported him as much as I should. Honestly, I haven?t been a good enough mum to him as I should.

I know if I was to move temporarily to the country where most of my family members are, I would be happier as I would have their support. But, looking into schools that teaches British Curriculum, the fees are £3500- £5000 which I can?t afford. If I didn?t have a school age child I would have moved already.

My friend says IBU since dc loves the country and when we were there last christmas he refused to come back to UK.

Why does your DC have to follow the British curriculum? And why would you move only temporarily?

I guess is due to my fear . I believe the british curriculum is better. Want to move temporarily until we are secure financially then we would move permanently.

Depends really on which country you want to move to, why you want to move, and whether your child would also be happy if you move.

You say your child wants to go. You want to go. Your family are there.

What is stopping you?

Well without any further information its hard to know what to say. If I knew where you were thinking of moving to it could be easier to advise on the curriculum.

So you are thinking of moving abroad temporarily until you are financially secure then stay there? Isn't that just moving abroad permanently?

I'm sorry, I'm just a bit confused.

I was born here and was educated here, the only education curriculum I know and trust is the british one.

That is very blinkered though.

My immediate family members are in Uganda. Some of my extended family are scattered all over the world.

My parents left Uganda due to Amin.

So you would like to move to Uganda, permanently?

Then you should.

I know I should but I fear my child would miss out on great education

How old is your child now?

Then make sure your DC has access to the internet, keep him/her reading novels, newspapers, magazines, talking through political issues, questioning etc. Buy some Science and Maths textbooks if you want to, to last through to A levels and keep studying at home, if you think the schools won't teach them well.

Secondary education these days is mostly about being able to find information and analyse/use it (skills). That can happen in Uganda easily enough.

How old is your DC?

He's 6yrs in yr2

Family support and network can be as valuable as an education. It sounds to me like both you and your child would be much happier with your family near by. I say go.

Thank you for such kind words.

I say go too. Deal with the education issue as - and if - it arises.

Oh it is tricky, I am also an immigrant and quite smitten with the schools here, but I am not sure it would be the one and only reason to stay.

....you know what you want to do, deep in your heart. be true to yourself.

I think you should go. You can always supplement his education. Is there a British Council in Uganda? British aid workers? There are probably other ways you can maintain his connection to the UK.

I'm currently doing a phd in the UK and one of my fellow students is Ugandan, he went to regular Ugandan schools until he was 18 and then went to the UK for uni.

If your son would be really happy there, that's the best thing you can do for him anyway.