to not bother being in meet our houseguest

[stubbornhubby]

we have the brother of a very good friend staying with us tomorrow. we've never actually met him though. it's a favour for our friend.

when he arrives he's making his own way from airport to us, but he hasn't even told us when his flight is landing, so I have no idea when to expect him.

I said I am not hanging around all morning waiting in: people to see, things to do, fish to buy... The house is busy, so whatever time he arrives there'll be someone in, he won't end up waiting outside our doorstep or anything.

Mrs Stubborn thinks it would be rude of me not be there. I think it's rude of him to not tell us what time he's coming...

Have you tried asking?

I think you're right. Even a rough idea of am/pm would be helpful.

I hope Mrs Stubborn isn't having to wait around for him though - if you're buggering off out and she's having to wait in for him to grace you with his presence at some unknown hour, then I can understand her being pissed off.

You could all just go out for the day, and see if he's on the doorstep when you get back...

Have you actually had any form of contact with this stranger?

Bit rude -could anyone make an effort to find out when he is coming?

Agree with flisspaps

yes what everyone else has said.

This board never ceases to amaze me about how lax people are about confirming timings for arrangements.

contact -- only by email.
it's sometime in the morning I do know, as we have arranged something we're doing in the afternoon.

no mrs stubborn wouldn't necessarily have to wait either, if we all come an go like a normal saturday morning it's easy to make sure that at least one person is there at all times ..

Does the brother of your 'very good friend' think that the 'very good friend' has passed on arrival information to you?
Could you not phone your friend and ask?

Yes, phone the original friend. But otherwise - no, you don't all have to be present and correct at the time he deigns to show up. He'll cope.

Well in answer to your original AIBU, if I were kindly being hosted by very good friends of my brothers whom I'd never met, I would take it upon myself to calculate an ETA, (depending on how far from the airport they live) and let them know. Having extended that courtesy, I would consider it polite for at least one of my hosts to be in during that timeframe and greet me on my arrival (and not just one of their DCs).

Your guest has not extended that courtesy, so as such YANBU to not be in to meet your houseguest.

BUT if I were hosting the brother of a very good friend whom I'd never met, I would have striven to ascertain an ETA (at the very least within an hours tolerance either way) and ensured I was present to greet him on his arrival. So as such, YABU not to have done this.

But then I am organised to Monica Geller proportions