To be paranoid that they hate me?

[WoodenElephant]

Basically a night out was organised with work - around 5 of us planning to go get drunk for a few drinks. Anyway it then transpired that someone else at work was trying to set up a christmas night out in the next few weeks and we were also invited to that so we decided to cancel this saturday night and just wait for the christmas do. However, I was then invited out with a couple of other friends (not from work) so I also invited one of the work friends who i am particularly close to (we have been out a few times before). One of the other work friends was a little offended (she didn't say this but I got the impression that she thought I'd cancelled the work night out so I could go out with the other friends) so we invited her too.

So that was all arranged - today however I get a text and both of them have cancelled on me. This seems strange as the first friend was all up for it at first and for them both the cancel at the same time makes my spidey senses tingle!! but then I am notoriously paranoid so am I over thinking this??

I just have visions of the two of them texting saying stuff like "I don't wanna go out with Elephant on saturday!" "no, neither do I, shall we both cancel?" lol

Am I being overly paranoid??

Basically I think I may have offended them by agreeing to cancel the work night out and then arranging another night out with different friends.
But maybe I'm over thinking it.

Yeah you are overthinking it. There are too many reasons to even hazard a guess as to why they cancelled. Why don't you just ask them? Then you can either take their responses at face value or be even more paranoid that they may be lying! None of this does you any good. Ask them, and accept their answers.

Well one of them I kinda get the impression that she doesn't like me much anyway which is fine (we can't all like everyone we know) and the other one who I'm friendlier with did go out last night and woke up with a big hangover today which to be fair, would put me off the weekend antics too. I'm kinda guessing my friendlier friend told the other one she was going to cancel and the one that isn't that fond of me said she may as well cancel too.

I just wish I wasn't so paranoid.

Ask them.

I would be worried about the fact that 5 of you arranged to go out, then you made alternatively arrangements which included 2 of them - so effectively you have now left 2 people out - are you not concerned that they will feel resentful? Maybe the 2 you invited cancelled because they were worried about causing a split in work?

I think ... I'd just be confused. Try asking them (not by text) ideally in a jokey way whether you've confused them. This mum (me) often gets over committed and pulled in lots of directions - particularly at weekends/evenings. Personally I wouldn't want to go out to an activity which had started off with all invited and then only some - it does seem cliquish.

The others were invited too, they just said they wanted to wait for the christmas do for money reasons (understandable).

I am probably just over-thinking it way too much.