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AIBU?

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AIBU say I don't want to discuss this further?

9 replies

Newmummytobe79 · 25/11/2011 10:01

Quick overview - DH has not spoken to his family for a week following a row over how we parent our baby. I calm down over time - he gets more worked up.

He wants an apology.

His parents are visiting DC and I don't want to be piggy in the middle as I agree with my DH but don't want a row with my inlaws.

AIBU to say I support my DH's views but don't want to discuss the situation any further and that they need to discuss with him.

I've always dealt with my side of the family and he his anytime there may have been difficult situations or conflict of opinions etc - I'm happy to stick to this arangement!

If I had my way I'd rather not see them until it's sorted (which I know it will be once someone picks up the phone!) but I understand how much they want to see DC and I would never ever dream of stopping them.

As far as I'm concerned they are coming to see their grandchild, not try and talk me round and sort out the row.

AIBU?

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531800000008 · 25/11/2011 10:04

need to know what the row was about

Whatmeworry · 25/11/2011 10:41

Depends if it's about using the word pikey or feeding them whole grapes, or something less serious.

Kayano · 25/11/2011 10:44

Plus if you made a
Decision to not speak to someone until you received an apology regarding your parenting and he didn't stick up for you or back you up I should
Imagine you would not be best please.

His parents, both your children, his decision IMO and you should support his right to ask for an apology

BeerTricksPotter · 25/11/2011 10:47

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fuzzynavel · 25/11/2011 10:55

YANBU to not want to talk about the situation especially if DH will not be around at the time.

Well done for being a mature adult as well and allowing them into your house even though there is conflict.

ChocolateWineAndShoes · 25/11/2011 12:29

Nope, you are being very fair and level headed about it all. YANBU at all.

Obviously I have no idea how serious the disagreement is, but it's very easy for these things to get out of hand (voice of bitter experience here!), so well done for not getting drawn into it.

StrandedUnderTheMisltoe · 25/11/2011 12:31

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mumofthreekids · 25/11/2011 12:39

It sounds like DH will not be around when they visit?

YANBU. Just calmly say it all got a bit heated last time, you don't want to get into it again and they must talk to their son if they want to discuss further.

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 25/11/2011 12:53

YANBU....I am sure if it was something TERRIBLE you would not let them see your DC....it's your DHs parents and if he wants to not speak to them its not fair to bring you or the chidren into it by demanding they not visit.

Is he always that unkind?

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