to ask my parents to share a bedroom on family holiday?

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My brother and I run a small business abroad and twice a year we go out to visit our clients etc... Our parents always come with us as they enjoy the location and spending time as a family. We are going next week for 7 nights.

Normally we stay in our own properties which are small studio flats but this year, a client of the business has given us free use of a 4 bedroom luxury chalet, with swimming pool etc.

At home my parents sleep seperately about 90% of the time as they disturb each others sleep and my dad is in mildly bad health (ie. he's not at deaths door but he needs his rest).
I have a one year old DD - at home she sleeps in her own room and generally quite well (7pm - 7am 6 nights out of 7). But she is teething at the moment so her sleep has been a bit up and down.

So, 4 bedrooms next week:

1. My brother and his girlfriend
2. My parents
3. Me and my DH
4. My DD

But my parents want my DD to go in with me and my DH so they can have seperate rooms. I've shared a room with my DD recently and it was awful, she's a noisy sleeper and if she wasn't waking me up, I was waking her up. My DH is a really fitful sleeper too so I know he'll wake her up countless times.

It's a working holiday for me and I will be busy during the days doing fairly physical work (cleaning, decorating, refurbing the studio apartments) or at meetings which involve long drives. For my parents, DH and DD it's a holiday so they can spend all the days relaxing if they choose.

But I'm genuinely not sure if IABU to expect my parents to share a bedroom so am asking the MN collective to help me!

So either they get crap sleep, or you do? And your dad needs his rest, but you're going to be working? I would want to give your parents seperate rooms, tbh. Could you & dh sleep downstairs?

I think YANBU - although TBH I would want to share a room with a 1yo on holiday, because I'm paranoid when in a new place.

Maybe suggest if they want to have separate rooms they can go to a hotel!

I would hate to have to share a room with my dh but as you have to work i think it is you who needs the sleep most. How about each have a turn in a room on your own?

I don't think you should miss out on good sleep - you are working and if it wasn't for that your parents wouldn't even be getting a holiday!

Or how about move the cot nightly or a rotation basis lol

could your mum share with your DD?

YANBU
Especially if they sometimes (10%) sleep together at home.

Or could your DD's cot go elsewhere in the house? Does she need an actual bedroom (don't have a 1yr old so don't know)

I remember once putting my DSs cot in the bathroom on holiday abroad - fair enough we got a fair few strange looks off the maid but it suited us all - it wouldn't fit through the bedroom door so my Mum and other DS slept in the bedroom, me and DH slept on the sofa beds in the living room, and DS was nice and cool in the bathroom!

You need your rest, as you are working, and they would not be staying there for free at all were it not work related.
Could they stay in one of the mentioned studio flats instead of the clients house?

Could you share a room with your mum and leave your DH and DD to sleep noisily together?

DD doesn't have to sleep in your bed does she? Can't she sleep in a ready bed ?

Or your dd could sleep with one of them?

YANBU I remember sharing a room with DS at that age it was a nightmare, woke up at 1am convinced it was party time. They can relax during the day by the pool, whereas you are working so YANBU, perhaps one of them could sleep with your DD if they reckon it isn't a problem. Or more reasonably yes is it possible to put the cot somewhere else, sounds like a spacious chalet [green] so there may be an alcove or living area where she could reasonably go.

Can't they stay in one of your studio apartments if one is free?

Thanks for your replies.. Am really relieved to see most people think I'm not being unreasonable.
In the interests of family harmony I do like the suggestions of compromise so will suggest taking it in turns to my parents.
My mum is very keen to sleep in DD so will give that a go maybe too.
DD will be in a cot so the bed in her room will be unused otherwise.

I am hoping there might be a small extra room that her cot could go in and was considering a bathroom as one poster suggested.

Thanks

If your Mum wants to sleep in with her DGD then that sounds like the perfect solution unless they disturb each other I guess. Or you and your mum together and DH with DD.

Can't your parents stay in one of the studios that you are working on?

My worry about my mum sleeping in the same room as DD is that my mum will get her out of the cot at the slightest sign that she might be awake!
DD does tend to wake up during the night but normally settles herself back. But my mum isn't a moron and I'm sure she'd respect my wishes if I asked her to give DD a chance to settle down before peering into the cot.

If I suggest my parents stay in one of my flats they'd feel banished and as we'll be cooking, eating etc in the chalet it would mean them trudging back in the cold at night (it's a ski resort) after dinner. Plus they are so excited that we're all staying together now.

I think the compromise is a good one. Your mum will probably love camping with her GDD, and if your DD does wake a lot and your mum doesn't get much sleep then as she won't be working she can nap in the daytime? Would your brother and his girlfriend be useful when you're working and your mum needs a nap?

Let your mum know that if she shares a room with DD and decides to get her up at 1am, that's FINE, but YOU will not be getting up until 7am as YOU will be working during the day.

If sharing with your DD doesn't work out, make it clear that Plan B is she shares with your dad (and packs earplugs!)

For the sake of family harmony, I'd go letting eveyone think DD was going to be in my room, but hoping there would be room on the landing to set her cot up there.