Does having a cleaner make me posh?

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Disclaimer: I am foreign, the whole British class system baffles me.

Turns out that DD was teased at school for being posh, because

1. she was quite bright in her year group, and other kids insisted that she must be tutored at home (she's not, but not sure truth is relevant, anyway)
2. she admitted that we have a cleaner (3 hours/week, but doubt DD even knows that much detail)
3. something else.. there was a third reason I can't remember now, but it was about the level of those criteria, like having a nice bicycle or maybe a bigger house than average, maybe, about as singular anyway.

I thought that it would take a lot more than any of that to be "posh"?!

We live in a "High ITV viewing" area, if that seems relevant. Not generally poor, not generally rich, just middlesome. We rarely go out, we have a broken TV, an 8yo ugly car, no XBox or Playstation, we rarely go on holiday, I have an oddball foreign accent generally associated with ignorant dullards, and we all dress like scruff bags.

We do have nice bicycles and a big house .

Or is it just the sort of thing English kids do, heave "You're posh!" accusations at each other for no good reason?

It probably means you are not on benefits or the minimum wage

Just thought of something.... 'Posh Spice' was never posh. QED.

It's just one of the things kids do - it's absolutely vile and I'm willing to bet there are areas where you spend less money and these kids' parents spend more. It's down to personal choice - maybe try getting your daughter to explain that just because you have a cleaner doesn't mean you spend as much as their parents in other areas?

One of my nieces mentioned feeding her pony as part of "what I did in the summer holidays" type lesson - she suffered no end of ribbing. She wasn't boasting, it was genuinely what she'd done most of the summer, when all her little classmates had been to Disneyland/days out/shopping/playing xbox etc. She hadn't realised it was something unusual or posh. It's so sad.

fickencharmer no just an OAP!

Me too OAP but OAP bank balances vary There are poor OAPS and well-heeled ones. we are a very unequal country

No I don't think you are 'posh', pergaos just a bit of a snob fir mentioning the ITV thing.

Perhaps not pergaos, I blame my posh iPad.

you think you are posh and want all mnetter to confirm that..not going to happen

And don't forget, you're talking about a child's perception of 'posh'

Yes, kids think big flatscreen TVs on the lounge wall and a TV is every room is posh, whereas we all know that Not Having A TV is posh :o

Not "not having a TV", I hasten to add - thats just pauvre. I mean Not Having A TV.

See, I Don't Have a TV and I do have a cleaner - but using French words where English will do - that's posh.

As one of my sister's pupils said to her wonderingly once, 'When you speak French, do you do a French accent or an English one? - the French one sounds so posh!'

Hi fickencharmer nice to know I'm not the only old fogey here and no I am not well off on PC but use adoption allowance £51. 68 to pay my cleaner I would sink without sight with no help (2youngest complex needs) and seriously do feel guilty.