to not want to be made to feel bad for having sugar in my tea!

[candr]

Has anyone else noticed that you rarely get asked if you want sugar any more when having tea so am forced to ask for it and nine times out of ten someone comments that it is unhealthy, bad for my figure or 'are you still using sugar' etc. I like a sugar in my god damn tea. I eat healthily and am by no means overweight (bit of after pregnancy weight but it's only been 9 weeks) Stop making me feel bad for it, just offer and keep quiet please. AIBU?

You must move in very different circles to me. Where I work you're odd not to have sugar and all my mum friends would ask, until they get to know how you take it.

OP YANBU if people are actually saying this stuff out loud to you. If someone said "are you still using sugar" I would probably shoot back "are you still being so rude" or possibly "well, it's better than crack!"

I actually don't know anyone who takes sugar but always say "milknsugar?" reflexively when putting on the kettle - we have a sugar bowl that is only ever used when I run out of sugar for baking, but I always offer unless I know for sure.

oh candr, come to my place! i love it when people say they want sugar in their tea/coffee as I am the only person I know who still has it!
makes me feel less alone

oh and also i don't wait for people to offer now, as I find they generally don/t

if someone says "do you want tea" I say "yes, white and one sugar please"

I am soooooo with you! I am constantly subjected to comments about having sugar in my tea! WTF? It's not that unusual!

Very few people I know take sugar nowadays apart from me and workmen. I don't get guilt tripped for it (I have a BMI of 23ish, which may help) but I am sometimes made to feel a nuisance by people who keep their sugar in an outhouse with the Christmas cake ingredients and have to unlock the shed and get out the stepladder.

Who doesn't offer milk and sugar when making tea?!

The worlds gone nuts. Is it a southern thing? Every northerner I know offers even if they don't take it themselves.

I dont really like hot drinks but anytime I make tea for anyone visiting they always want sugar. The only person i have ever actually met who didnt was my ex stepmother and she had a deep fear of anything even a tiny bit sugary.

It's rude of people to comment it's unhealthy so on that part YANBU. (And in any case it's not that unhealthy in the context of a healthy diet.)

However surely if you're offered a drink it's not hard to say "Yes please, tea with milk and sugar please". I drink black coffee and if I don't tell people that, they often assume I take milk, so I make a point of asking for black coffee.

You must be down south. It's the last taboo.

Often people don't even have granulated sugar in the house, let alone ask you if you take it. If you're lucky and they ask and then even luckier and they ask how many, I like to hear the sharp intakes of breath when I whisper 'two please'.

I think I'm the only person I know who doesn't take sugar in tea and coffee even dh does. I still offer anyone whose order I don't know sugar.
The only problem we do have is that because I don't use sugar I never know if we are running low or it just doesn't occur to me to check and buy it.

Lol at 'unlock the shed and get out the stepladder'. So true.

Or they have to open a rock hard bag of demerara from the back of the cupboard with a use by date of 1982.

Imagine the comments I get when I ask for 3 sugars.
If I get a hot drink while out anywhere I always have to ask for extra as 2 seems to be the maximum you are offered.

Yes, I am old crone who puts sachets in handbag for emergencies.

@ schobe - I put them in my bag for the hell of it!

I am fed up of DH wittering on about how he released himself from the grip of sugar in his Tea and how I too should denounce the evil of Tate and Lyle.
I have one sugar and no biscuit, he has one sugar and half a barrel of chocolate digestives but he is Father Superior and I am the devils fat ass spawn.

I was actually stunned when I went to DS1's friends house and she said we don't buy sugar! I can't drink coffee but always have some in for guests.

YANBU, you shouldn't be made to feel bad? Maybe you eat less biscuits and cakes?
To be honest I always forget to ask if people want sugar, because hardly anybody I know does. But I'm wondering now, do they really not take sugar or are they to embarassed to ask??!

I don't have sugar myself but am considering taking it up - seriously - surely if you need a mid afternoon sugar hit then surely a spoonful of sugar in a cuppa is better than chocolate/biscuits/cake?

How rude of people to comment. I would always offer sugar and wouldn't raise an eyebrow either way, I know plenty of people that take it, most of whom are considerably healthier than I am.

I've never had sugar in my drinks and I admit for a few years I would of had to scrabble about in the cupboard for some randomly aqquired packets but it doesn't bother me that others have it.

I now could offer you a choice of sugar

I've never noticed this in my life

I don't take sugar in my tea but people always ask if I do

Not a southern thing. Half the people in my office take sugar and I always offer it if making tea for anyone strange.

Not a single member of DH's family (including DH) take sugar...I'm a sugar pariah at outlaws family gatherings.

I take 2 and it doesn't bother me at all.

If anyone is rude enough to comment, I point out that my bum doesn't wobble much when I walk and I have no fillings. Soon shuts them up.

I feel your pain. Every single sodding time any one i know makes me a cup.of tea they all say.

"Three? THREE?!"

Every single time. Some of these people I have known for 20 years.

YANBU - my dh has two and a coo (two sugars and milk) and always has done. Whenever we go to his dad's place, he and his wife make a HUGE fuss about finding sugar for him to put in his tea, grumbling about how they can't believe he still takes it, and no-one else they know does, and how bad it is for his teeth and so on so on.
I think they are incredibly rude to react this way. Just get the fucking sugar and shut the fuck up!