To have yelled over two fences at frightening neighbour?

[worriedaboutneighbourskids]

She screams at her children every morning and every evening. All three. The little one - girl aged 4, was crying and moaning 'I'm tired mummy I am tired' and other similar wails. She sounds hard to handle, but then ther mother screams and shouts at her 'SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP'. she counters everything the little girl says 'DO YOU? ARE YOU? WOULD YOU? It's really horrible to hear. Other neighbours around us have all commented but nobody has said anything.

The girl sounds distressed always and at the weekends it's often worse as the dad is there too and they are all screeching. I dont think they hit them but the pitiful crying is incessant.

Anyway i just shouted loudly over my fence 'STOP SHOUTING AT YOUR CHILDREN X X X YOU BULLY'

She brings me out in a sweat as we have had three confrontations before and she has called me obnoxious names. I am selling up and moving as i can't stand it but I almost feel better now that I kniow I am not going to stay and listen to it all....I feel a bit emboldended to tell her to stop abusing her girls because that's what it sounds like.

Should I stay schtum and not get involved, especially as trying to sell my house and all this crap will have to vbe declared?

I might get some serious stick from her now I have yelled over fences but I feel badly for her girls.

Maybe IABU to call over at her. I would not dare go round and face up to her as she would hit me or at least totally annihilate me to my face. She is one of the big 'local family mafia' and reduces me to sweats.

I dunno. I was shouted screamed abused and yelled at as a child and to hear it happening in your own back garden and continue to just ignore feels badly out of order.

Please feel free to flame me. I really dont know what to do and i should probably just steer clear.

It's not everyday stuff for me either. I think you should inform social services and get out of there as quick as you can. In whichever order you prefer.

Oh dear OP. not a nice situation.

I think you need to keep head down now and protect yourself, as you have a little one to consider. avoid, avopid, avoid. Then if you have a way out (ie moving away) then you should report them.

This may sound selfish but I cannot see the point of reporting them if it puts you, and your son, at risk.

They are clearly very scary people

so my advise is to avoid them, avoid eye contact.

also explore wther other neighbours might want to report them

poor kids

and I dont agree with mary poppins, they are cunt and doubt a face to face chat will create anything bar more agrro TBH

I can completely understand your frustration and that you snapped and shouted - it may have surprised the woman, or she may be accustomed to ignoring other people's shouting.

I think social services is the 'correct' route to take. If you have actually been threatened, then the police too. You may want to wait, for ss, until you have secured a sale on your house.

What bothers me about your posts though is your attitude that as a single parent it's normal to be got at by other people. It isn't.