P'd off w other mum picking up my child early AIBU?

[MrsTruper]

I share the school run with another mum. Normally no problems, but for the second time she has picked up my child early from school without asking me if it was ok.

The school had asked her to pick up her own child early because of sickness, and after the event she said to me that seeing she was there she thought she might as well pick up all of them at the same time.

I would rather my child stayed at school to be educated, thanks! How could she possibly think it's her decision to take? How would you feel? I will mention it to her, but I just wondered if I am overreacting?

Depends on whether or not you would have been able to collect your child, if so she should have let you know. If not, then she couldn't really go back if her child is ill.

I can def collect, and she is aware of that. Of course I would not expect her to go back twice.

You need to have a word then. I too would rather mine stayed at school.

Yanbu, it's weird and I'm really surprised the school allowed it!

It depends how early, and the child's age tbh. If it was half an hour for a 4 year old, that's quite different to 2 hours or more for a 15 year old.

But mention it, and say next time if she can leave your DC in school and let you know so you can collect him/her (I'm assuming her main reason is to avoid doing 2 trips). If you can do that, that is.

It's not unreasonable at all to be p'ed off that your child is missing school for no good reason, - I'm surprised the school let her go, TBH.

Have a word with the mum, and ask her to call you advance if this situation crops up again. If you can pick up your own child at the usual time, that is clearly far better than her missing school.

You say this is the second time this has happened, - you don't want there to be a third time, so sort this out

She should have let you know her child was ill and so couldn't do the school run today - or at least given you the option to choose yourself. Actually I am quite amazed the school is happy to let a healthy child leave early.

Thank you for your replys...it was an hour and a half early, and she is in year 2 (sats this year)....I agree, I am amazed the school let a well child home early too.

I think its a bit strange the school allowed the other children out early too I think you should have a casual word with the mum and say next time dont worry about my child Ill pick her up if yours isnt well etc ,

I don't know of any school that would allow a parent to pick up another person's child either a) early because their own child was ill or b) without contacting the child's parents first.

Speak with the school.

20 minutes is one thing, an hour and a half is pretty much the whole afternoon.

I am suprised they allowed it, once I had to pick DS1 up after he was sick four times, I asked if I could take DD home too so I didn't have to bring DS out again and got a right telling off.

There's no way the school here would have handed your children over early

Same for the DCs' school. Very odd indeed. Wonder what she told them.

she should have rung you, you might not have wanted your child to go home with a sick child

did she take her to her house or straight to yours?

Actually, my comment was a bit sitting-on-the-fencey.

I think WorraLiberty is spot on.

Year 2? So your kid is 6 or 7? "SATS this year!" and she missed what 90 mins in the afternoon when she was probably doing that dancing around in their shorts that passes for PE these days?

To be honest I do get that you would want to be told and decide for yourself, I would too but honestly bringing up concern for SATS in Year 2 as a factor is laughable, imvho anyway.

Tell her to run it by you next time, as you will be able to pick up, she probably thought she was doing you a favour AND meeting the needs of her sick child. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

Actually, I think your argument is more with the school than your friend/childminder.

They would be on very dodgy ground legally say if an accident happened...

All comments very interesting, thanks. Makes me think dd's school is lax.

My dd tells me she missed afternoon registration, so that IS all afternoon...I am really cross that the school or the mum didn't call me.

I will speak to the school tomorrow, something has gone terribly wrong for a healthy child to leave school early without the parent having a say in the matter. After all, I am responsible for her attendance.

I'm with worra, I'm amazed that the school let her go early! And I'd be annoyed to!

How strange!

Of the school, I mean.

Yup - v v slack school.

Could effect their 'safeguarding' responsibilities...

TBH i'd complain to the school theres no reason at all to let a well child go home that early specially without the parents permission.

I think you need to check exactly what happened, with the school, before you speak to the parent