Help - who is BU?

[MrSpoc]

Need advice fast.

I am an appointee on behalf of my mum who receives Higher rate DLA

Sister has just tried to get a car on mobility for my mum and was refused as I am the appointee. I have spoken to the garage and I have refused to hand over my details as I would be totally responsible for the car. My issue is:
? Legally if anything happened to it I would be responsible
? If my sister was found to use the car fraudiantly then I would also be done (which I think she would be by taking the car)
? I wont even be driving the car yet have full responsibility
Garage have said that my issues are stupid as:
? Mobility pay direct for it not my mum
? Sister will be insured
? If sister is accused of fraud then all they would do is take car back off her

Sister is very annoyed but my issue with her are:
? She already has a 12 seater mini bus and a ford focus
? She wants a brand new Nissan qasqui ? 4X4
? Mum does not drive and never goes out, except to the doctors which sis does take her too
? Mum looses out on the mobility money when she could use it on a scooter which she has said she wanted

In short I feel this is more for my sisters benefit rather than my mum.

Who is being unreasonable?

Your sister. She clearly wants it for her own personal use. I bet she would be awkward as hell if your mom ever wanted taking anywhere!
If your mom doesn't want it then don't do it and don't feel guilty about declining.

your sister is totally U.

My mum does want it because my sister really wants it.

Why does your sister need another car?! s she only going to get the car out to take your Mum to the doctors?
If Mum wants a scooter let her spend HER DLA on it?
YANBU

My feeling is that your sister is being unreasonable. She wants the car - your mum sounds as if she will be better off keeping the money.

Take no notice of the garage - they have a vested interest, so hardly giving an impartial opinion.

Your sister is being unreasonable and would be acting fraudulently.

A motability car is for the use of the person who is on DLA, so can only be used to take them places or for use when doing things for them. It is not a runaround for your sister!

why the hell should your mum lose money she is entitled to so that your sister can get a bloody car. Cheek of it.

If she wanted the car purely to take your mum to the gp, and apart from that, it was parked outside your mum's house, then fair enough.

But I suspect your sister would just use it freely, wouldn't she?

You are doing the right thing to say no. Apart from anything else, your mum could get into trouble.

mum is fine getting in and out of all cars. Sisters cars are both fine and in good working order.

She will use it when ever and however she chooses but justifies it by saying she does the shopping and doctors for my mum. Appart from that my mum never wants to go out yet i she had a scooter she would have more freedom.

I would not feel to basd if my sister paid the £40 PW back to my mum but she wont and also it wont be my mum at fault it will be ME.

So your sister is trying to get a mobility car to take your mum to hospital appointments- but your mum financially loses out and your sister already has a way to get her to these appointments and you actually think your sister just wants use of a nice new car?
Is that right?

Why would your sister want this car at a financial loss to you mum?

Can you take your mum to her appointments? Then sister can't say mum needs a car, mum gets the scooter she actually needs and you're not involved in something that you suspect is for fraudulent use.

she cannot use it whenever and however she wants. That is fraudulent use.

You are right to say no. She is taking the piss.

This very scenario is what the DLA/Blue Badge are cracking down on at the moment. It is just your sister's way of getting a new car, and getting your Mum to pay for it out of her DLA.

Thanks everyone, i wasnt sure if i was being unreasonable.

My compromise was that i get taken off as appointee (not sure how) and get my sister to do it, then its all down to her.

Suppose the reason it narkes me the most is she is on bens, chooses not to work, boyfriend has his own business but claims not to live there (he does) she has the life of riley (also sells birthday cakes which is not declared).
Has 3 kids all in school so no reason noy to get a job.

She just wants it all without having to work for it and my mum suffers (money wise).

Yes.

I consider it financial abuse of a vulnerable person. Your sister should be ashamed of her selfishness.

Yes it is OldGreyWassailTest

And you want to sign it over and wash your hands of it?

That's not the right thing to do either, is it? It's the easier thing and less hassle and falling out - but is it the right thing to do?

Simply say no and stick to that!

If your sister is so greedy that she feels she is entitled to a new car (at a cost of £2080 a year to your mum) in return for taking her to the doctors and going for her shopping I would be taking a taxi and shopping online as delivery and cost of taxi would be far less and she could then still afford a scooter.

Hecte - I agree but my mum is not stupid and understands she is loosing out. She is happy with it as my sister does do allot for her (guilt trip).

I cannot say it will be used fraudiantly but i do belive it would be. So it would be in everyones interest if I was not my mums appointee.

Or is there anything anyone could advise?

You need to make a stand on your Mum's behalf. She will be losing that money. You cant just sign it over to your DSis and pretend its not happening.

Mince but how can i stand up for someone who does not want to be stood up for? my mum wants it as much as her, because my sister is the one running the errands.

Your sister is lucky no-one has reported her or her partner to both the tax man and the benefits agencey.

well, then sign it over.

If it was me though, I'd say that if she ever uses it as a run about, you will report her to motability.

And, being a hard cow , I'd be saying to mum - this is your choice, I don't want to hear one word of complaint from you at all, ever, about it, because you know what you are doing.

I hate people who take advantage of others.

I realise it's not my place - but your sister doesn't sound like a very nice person at all.

thanks Hec - She is selfish and i agree with everything you have just said and will implement your hard nose style smile

oohps meant

Help your mum get her mobility scooter then. :)

How many cars can she drive at any one time?!

YANBU. She is, and selfish, and it is really outrageous she is basically preying on your mum's sense of gratitude towards her to make her 'want' the new car herself.