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less of an AIBU and more of a AIGBSC (am I going bat shit crazy?)

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lottielou39 · 22/11/2011 13:59

So, this situation has cropped up not once, but twice recently. And I'm a bit confused. Is it just me: (am 38+3 weeks pregnant, so might be pregnancy dementia, dunno)

  1. a friend mentions last Thursday that her and a mutual friend are meeting for a meal today and would I like to come. 'Yes please, I'd love to' says I.
    I ask her to text me to confirm the details, such as time etc. and she says she will text me. I hear nothing over the weekend, am tempted to text her to ask if it's still on, but left it as she said she'd text me (and I assumed it had been called off or rescheduled or something).. then an hour ago she texts to ask where I am. Is it me? I didn't know what time and hadn't any confirmation from her.

  2. a friend texts to invite my eldest daughter to her daughters impromptu leaving-the-school party. I say yes, she'd like to come. I then hear nothing at all about the time they're supposed to be there etc. and get a text midway through Saturday saying 'all the girls are ready to set off now and your daughter hasn't arrived yet, is she coming?'. Am I supposed to be psychic, or missing some crucial subtleties in the fine art of texting here? Am I perhaps going a little bit mad?

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ViviPru · 22/11/2011 16:35

fair doos

lottielou39 · 22/11/2011 17:06

yes. I've become increasingly impatient with people who make vague arrangements then expect me to chase up/be psychic. I haven't the time or the energy, just a week away from my edd. I think it stems also from trying to confirm details with others in the past and getting nowhere fast. I've a small, loyal group of friends who never do this, but one or two who think I'm mystic ruddy meg. It does get on my tits rather.

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BluddyMoFo · 22/11/2011 17:08

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lottielou39 · 22/11/2011 17:15

lol, clearly I expect too much from other people, ie. doing what they say they're going to do.
Usually I'm quite a compliant person. If you'd met me a few years ago, you'd probably have thought I was a bit doormatty.
I've spent many a year chasing people up. When you get older, you get less tolerant of this.

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WilsonFrickett · 22/11/2011 17:17

1 out of 10 texts never arrives at their destination. Troo fact.

lottielou39 · 22/11/2011 17:24

I've confirmed that it wasn't my phone. She didn't send any confirmation text or try to phone with the time. Not sure why she would assume that I'd be there if I hadn't been given a time etc

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StealthPenguin · 22/11/2011 17:56

Oh, and OP?
Good luck with the pregnancy :) hope the little one arrives on time!

lottielou39 · 22/11/2011 18:53

Thanks! Imminent arrival of baby is lowering my tolerance threshold!

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StealthPenguin · 22/11/2011 19:18

It's fine, I was like that all the way through. Thought I was going mad!

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