We're civil for DD's sake, but he still annoys me - have posted about him before.
DD(6) stayed at his last Saturday. He had been at the pub prior to me dropping her off at 2pm which he admitted. DD told me after picking her up on Sunday that they had gone to the pub again late that afternoon, and then he was also going to the pub to watch the football on Sunday which he told me when I picked DD up (well he didn't tell me, but when his 10yo DD was going out to meet friends, he told her not to be long as he was going to go down there soon).
Fine, he can do what he wants with his life. What pissed me off is that I had taken her school photos round for him to see and his response was along the lines of "not a chance, I'm absolutely broke at the moment". The two pictures he does have of DD in his flat are ones that I have supplied him with. I know, school photos aren't the be all and end all, but he has enough money to go to the pub doesn't he? It just goes to show where his priorities are.
The other issue is that it's DD's class assembly tomorrow. I work full time and am lucky enough to have a very understanding and lovely boss who said I could go in late tomorrow as long as I make it up in my lunch break (was originally going to take a half day but boss said there was absolutely no point if I was only going to be an hour and half late for work). Ex however said he would 'try and make it' - very non committal. He doesn't have his other DD tonight as she's at a friend's house whilst he does his pub quiz, he isn't working until tomorrow night which means he'll sleep from mid-afternoon until early evening but again it grates. I should just stop letting him get to me.
Before you all say it as well, yes I do worry about him drinking with DD there don't get me wrong, but I have been on the side where I was stopped from seeing my dad from a young age for similar reasons, and grew up resenting my mum for it. As it turns out during my teens I found out what a bastard my dad actually is, but I don't want DD growing up with the same resentment towards me.
Another thing is that I'm certainly no angel, I have taken DD to pubs before, but these are always child friendly pubs with play equipment and usually I drink coke (or on occasion may have a small drink). The pub ExP took DD to was a 'typical' old man's pub and I just disagree with it.
So yes I am being unreasonable to let him get to me, but just wanted a good old moan.