To feel that DP is in the wrong here?

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Briefly, my dp has mislaid a very important item which she was supposedly keeping safe for me, as I can be absent minded and lose things. (I know- ironic!) This item is important for my health. Long story, not really relevant. Anyway, since it has transpired that it us mislaid, I have been really relaxed with dp, not going on about it and trying to stay positive eg saying 'I'm sure it'll turn up' etc. In contrast, she has been very grumpy when unable to find it, grumbling about 'I suppose I'll have to take responsibility or you will keep bringing this up in arguments' as though it's my fault.

This morning she got up in a big strop and was going on again but trying to make out that I was stressed about the loss of the item. I am! But have not shown this to dp, because I don't want her to feel bad. Anyway, she was so grumpy and cross this morning, saying things like 'you're not good for me' and 'I never user to lose things before I met you', shouting abd swearing. I got so upset that I didn't feel able to go into work- it was partly dp and partly my health issues and partly anxiety over the loss of this item. Anyway, still feeling sad and cross, but also very confused, as I feel that the whole situation came out of nowhere. Is this EA or just dp being grumpy? (sorry, posted in relationships but need quick response if poss so have copied here.)

have you looked everywhere?

I would make another appointment ASAP in advance so that you don't get given the coil to take home with you and lose (you both lost it, it was your responsibility as much as your dp's!).

If you make the appt well in advance you can get it to fit your cycle.

PITA when you lose something, even worse when it belongs to someone else and you've been trusted with it, so I would say your DP's grumpiness is part guilt, part actual grumpiness at the responsibility and part just plain old anger and frustration.

Although I have a mirena coil because I don't want another baby, the biggest factor in my having it is to combat the periods from hell I used to suffer... so as an aside, I really hope it works for you as well as it works for me. My friend needed a tampon last week and I was sure I had one somewhere, when I found it, it was dusty... I couldn't bring myself to offer it to her!

Don't panic. Explain the situation. Bit of a silly practice though to hand out coils, our GP simply makes an appointment for when its convenient/right time.

I know they are a metre long (ish) because DD was curious about what was in the boxes in the GPs a couple of weeks ago.
I had no idea they cost that much though.

Mary? Is that some sort of reference to immaculate conception ( comming up to Christmas)

< wanders off scratching head >

May be someone has stole it, just look for someone who seems to have a spring in their step.

This is not a piss-take, it works ! Try this.
Take a pin and a cushion stab the cushion with the pin, 3 times saying " i pin the devil ". You will find the missing item...if its in the house.