to ask friend not to visit because her children have nits?

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My friend is supposed to be visiting on Friday and staying the night. She has just mentioned that her children have nits and what a pain it is combing them out. I would prefer it if she didn't come until nit free, so that my children are not exposed to them! I know they are likely to get them at school, but would prefer them not to knowingly be in close proximity, sharing a bed and bath and so on! AIBU?

Most decent people would cancel.

If she doesn't have the manners to rearrange, you have to do it for her.

God, some people...

And just because it's "no big deal", doesn't mean you want them. Ditto your cough, cold or "mild D&V".

Yanbu. No way would they be coming to my house with lice. I am surprised she is still thinking of coming tbh, I certainly wouldn't send my kids to a sleepover with lice, it's bad enough getting them by chance at school, let alone knowingly exposing your kids to them.

yabu and bitty precious,avoiding pal won't= avoid nits as you don't know who else has them.other kids at school etc.if she treats tonight should be gone by friday

Scottishmummy - you obviously haven't had two years of nits like I have in my house! (And yes I docomb etc - they just fookin' love my dc's hair).
But yeah agree I would never tell them not to come. I'd just say 'arrrgghhh yes of course come but please tie their hair back and power hose them with tea tree oil'.

docomb? do comb

yanbu
I would not be welcoming someone with nits into my house, I wouldn't send mine them anywhere with them (school/park anywhere). The attitude its no big deal is what spreads them. Check regularly and treat effectively!
yes u SIL

I strongly suspect most people who are up in arms on this thread have pre-schoolers. Once they get to primary school you have to accept nits as a fact of life, otherwise you will send yourself nuts. Factor in 20 mins x twice per week combing per child and you will keep them at bay.

My dc wouldn't be doing sleepovers with headlice and I'd be pretty about anyone knowingly turning up with them to me. It's inconsiderate. Yanbu.

You are so right. I remember a friend being horrified spotting eggs on a child's head at a party. I just said it was no biggy.

3 years later her little darlings are at primary school and have had them loads, so she appreciates that a few dead eggs shouldn't mean becoming hermits.

:)

My 3 dc are far from pre school age. Headlice may be a fact of life but there's no need to casually spread them about when there's a choice in the matter.

We had two kids visit over the summer holidays and kindly left us with threadworms

Chicken pox and cold virus are a fact of life, doesnt mean we should deliberately expose our kids to them. I have 2 dc one 5 The other 7, both have had head lice on one occasion, and it was from a friends child whom she later disclosed has been infested for years. I was bloody fuming with her. Funnily enough our friendship hasnt stood the test of time, I found it very difficult to respect someone who was not only prepared to let her own dc suffer with lice but also pass them onto my dc and not see that as a problem.

If my kids had nits and we were going somewhere I would probably cancel if I didn't have time to treat before we went. If someone visited me and we found nits during the visit I would get the Hedrin in.

Bibbity I dream of a 20 minute comb throughs. DD has thick almost afro hair it takes at least an hour and half to comb through 2.5 hours if she actually gets nits. Which she does frequently so yes I am quite precious about her not getting them and quite about mothers with DC with thinnish fair hair who are relaxed about nits because it only takes them 20 mins to deal with it. Sorry ranting a topic close to my heart at the moment.