DD saying sexy

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Was just changing DD's nappy and she said something which sounded like 'very sexy'. I asked her to say it again, thought I must've misheard. But she said the same thing and pointed at her bits. She smiled, laughed and said it again. I said that I didn't understand what she was saying and she then said 'very funny'.

My blood went cold when she said it. Probably because I was changing her nappy at the time and then she pointed at her bits. AIBU to be worried? I really don't know what to do. I don't feel I can speak to DH about it, he was abused as a child and I think he will jump to conclusions. Also am worried that I am doing the same.

Just to be clear sexy is not a word we use in relation to her, ever- obviously it would be inappropraite to do so. DH does use the word a bit toward me, as in 'Morning sexy' (I know ) but that is all I can think of.

You may be worried about DH jumping to conclusions but, as you're doing exactly the same thing, I would definitely talk to him if only to get a second opinion and to ask him to be careful what he says around your child. Ask your DD where she heard the word, perhaps... may be someone you haven't considered. Could be that she's making a completely different word sound like 'sexy'. As always, be very vigilant about who looks after your children and conscious of their behaviour around them. However, try not to read too much into an isolated remark.

I would do as Cogito has said and explore where she heard the word. How old is she? You could also inquire at her nursery/childminder if she has one.

A girl at work calls her 2 year old nephew sexy, all her family do it. For some it means nothing for others it is not appropriate.

Are you absolutely sure, she was saying 'sexy'? I say this as the mother of a 3yr old who had to go into nursery and apologise this week, as he had apparently been saying 'fucking hell' as "all the boys at nursery say it." Turns out that he was trying to say 'Chuggington'

My brother once said 'you little bastards' while playing a computer game I was sure of it. I gave him a good talking to.

Then later I heard him say 'you little asteroids' and then look at me really worried. I had a bit of apologising to do.

make sure it's definitely what she said first

She is 2. She said it 3 times and it really sounded like sexy but I obvs can't put my hand on heart and say it wasn't something else. Theres is no way I could ask where she heard it - I don't think she would understand me and certainly is too young to articulate where she heard it (if that's what she said). She goes to Nursery (2 days) and Creche (2 hours) a week. I could ask them but am worried i will sound like a loon. Think I will wait and see if it comes up again. Appreciate other views on this- think I did get more het up than I should have but it was pointing at bits and saying sexy that threw me.

FWIW I think anyone calling A 2 year old is inappropriate Fabby - words mean things, you cannot just decide they mean nothing.

• calling a 2 year old sexy

Of course it's inappropriate.

As you were changing her nappy could it have been 'smelly'?

DS is potty training. Today he discovered that he has access to his willy at all times, so he was jumping up and down on the sofa, first saying "Look everyone, I have a really big willy!" and then "Boobies! Boobies! Boobies!" while fiddling with it Again, just a word he thinks sounds funny rather than it having any connection. He was also singing as we were walking to the shop "Fuuuuuck, fuuuuck!" which is a word he thinks he has made up.

It's more than likely just either a random collection of sounds she's trying out which happened to sound like this, or she was trying to say something else - do you ever describe her nappy as "soggy"? How much language does she have? It's a bit late now but if she does it again I'd be tempted to laugh back so she doesn't realise you are worried and say "Who says that, DD?" in a casual way and see what she says.

I know some people who use the word "sexy" to describe little children in much the same way as "cute" or "adorable". It makes me uncomfortable too, but they don't mean anything by it. I would have thought though that if this word was being used in a nursery or creche situation that it would be pulled up by management, because a lot of people would see it as inappropriate even if it is seen as harmless by some families.

Oh very smelly could be another mispronunciation, it's often a word toddlers find funny.

I think it's more likely that she's either trying to say something else or she's heard the word "sexy" in some other context and it's a coincidence that she's saying it while you're doing her nappy. Anyway if (God forbid,) anything is going on, nobody would be so stupid as to use that particular word knowing she's of an age to go and repeat it?

tbh I totally understand your reaction. I would talk to nursery and creche manager making sure that you tell them you know it might be totally innocent. But whether justified or not, this would worry me too much not to ask questions and check it out.