To think a childs behaviour isn't just down to the parent who isn't in paid employment?

[AgentZigzag]

I.e. if there's a behavioural malfunction that both are responsible rather than it just falling to the parent who doesn't go out to work?

I stay at home and share equal responsibility with DH for 10 YO DD1 constantly backchatting () I was thinking more about my Dad who I distinctly remember, when me and my brother were playing up once, saying to my Mum 'Come and sort out your children!'

My Mum was definately more 'Oh yeah, mine you say?? ' than 'Yes, right away darling'

But was he just a product of his time (we grew up in the 70's)?

Or is that a cop out and it doesn't make any difference whether you're out at work the greater part of the day or not, it falls to both parents to crack the whip instill discipline into their prodogy?

(I'm split between the definition of prodigy meaning 'a person, esp a child, of unusual or marvellous talents' or 'something monstrous or abnormal' )

(and I would like to say that he did discipline us and was maybe a little OTT on occasion, but he also spent a lot of time playing with us, so if you'd pissed him off you knew it was bad IYKWIM?)

You were obviously never told "just wait until your father gets home..."

Parents need to present a united front or DCs will just play them one off against the other.

I don't think I was actually nocake (what?? No cake at all?? ) my Mum was scary enough on her own

But I have used it with DD1, as in 'I'm going to have to tell Daddy about you getting nail varnish all over your bedding that', he's going to notice anyway so I might as well have used it to my advantage

Even though he only gives disapproving looks and makes disappointed noises, it's enough.

I did try that once PomBear, got short shrift I can tell you.

Obviously down to both parents irrespective of whether or not they are in paid employment

YANBU, obviously.

But if one parent is away from the house for 75% of their time awake hmc, is it fair for them to shoulder 50% of the blame responsibility?

Stranded - I say that now! If they are driving me crazy, they suddenly belong to dh alone

I'm genuinely quite depressed that you even pose the question, as I am a FT working mum. But absolutely engaged and equally responsible for all child care issues and discipline - obviously.

I am a SaHm and think that the good is because of me and the bad is in their nature so can't be changed.