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AIBU?

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to tell my mother that she can't bring her dogs?

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fuzzypeach1750 · 19/11/2011 20:33

I'll try and cut this short.

We are an animal loving family (dog,cats, rabbit, kids have horses) and my parents have a small holding. When ever my parents come over they bring their 2 dogs ( cavalier king Charles spaniels) which is obviously fine in itself.

BUT they cock their legs everywhere within minutes of coming through the door. Our house is large and spread over three fliers and they get everywhere. I'm house proud and keep it like a show home which is work in itself with 3 DCs and 2 businesses to run.

This evening they have weed everywhere, including all over the children's school bags (they go to private school and have to have a certain bag which I can't replace before school as the specialist shop is closed Sunday's).
So, AIBU to say that she can't bring them again?

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RachelHRD · 19/11/2011 21:30

I always find it bizarre that people bring their dogs with them when visiting friends/family. Personally when I had a dog I wouldn't have dreamed of taking him to other people's houses - there is always the risk of them scenting especially if there are other animals in the house.
My late DF and his partner used to bring their horrible and snappy dog to my Dsis and it would scent everywhere and chase her cats. I was firm that said dog was not welcome at mine as I had cats too.
Just ask her to leave them at home - YANBU

catgirl1976 · 19/11/2011 21:33

YANBU - Garden or nothing. I love dogs but they can't pee everywhere - thats WRONG

aurynne · 19/11/2011 21:38

If every time you went to your mum's house you peed in every corner, would she let you go?

oldqueenie · 19/11/2011 21:40

hmmm. how old is your youngest dc? could he / she be trained up to pee and poo in living room in grandma's house?

Minus273 · 19/11/2011 21:41

YANBU, They shouldn't be peeing everywhere. I'd be mortified if an animal of mine had an accident in someone else's house. I'd definitely be cleaning it myself.

4madboys · 19/11/2011 21:45

yuk!! you are sooo NOT being unreasonable!! i think that dog owners should ASK if they can take their dogs to someone elses house anyway, if we ever had a dog (which we cant as i am allergic) i would NEVER take it to someones house wihtout checking its ok, you just dont!

we have this issue with relatives that insist on bringing their dog to ours despite the fact that i am allergic to dogs!! its just bloody rude and disrespectufl and your mum should be cleaning up her dogs piss not you!

letmehelp · 19/11/2011 21:49

YADNU. I would find it difficult to allow any dog in my house. Dogs that wee everywhere....? Really, she thinks it's OK to bring her dogs when they do that?

LineRunnerSaturnalia · 19/11/2011 21:54

I think you have been very patient but enough is enough.

Dogs - outside.

PowderMum · 20/11/2011 20:26

My parent's dog often accompanies them when they pop round (so that DD can take it for a walk). If she had 1 accident I could accept that, if she peed regularly she wouldn't get through the front door.

I am not house proud don't mind the hairs or muddy footprints but nothing else.

YADNBU

DrSeuss · 20/11/2011 20:41

Oh, please, bring other people's creatures to piss in my house!

What planet is your mother on? Tell me where she lives and I'll go piss through her letterbox!

wildfig · 20/11/2011 20:42

YANBU. I don't take my dogs to anyone's house without a very specific invitation, and I'd be mortified if either of them weed inside. Have you tried the well-meaning concern tack? As in, 'Mum, I know you say the dogs are housetrained, but they're peeing inside, have they got a UTI? Have you taken them to the vets?'

Otherwise, garden, or confined to the kitchen. Or just left at home.

Listzilla · 20/11/2011 21:01

I feel your pain! My PILs have a dog that MIL won't leave alone for more than 20 minutes. They bring him every time they come to our house.

In the beginning he peed all over the house and chased my cats. MIL stood laughing at the hilarious sight of the cats shaking on top of a bookcase while the dog barked his head off at them. Plus the cats could smell him off everything for weeks afterwards so they were terribly unsettled.

We tried insisting that he stay in the garden but MIL would wear her coat and stay out there with him, which meant that everyone had to follow her out to be polite (or something).

Also, he has a history of biting their grandchildren, which just made them laugh indulgently. You know, the sort of 'ah bless, he's such a spirited little thing' attitude? Whereas I'm inclined to think 'ah, he's such a spoiled, undisciplined little nightmare of a dog, get him the hell out of my house'.

I tried to tell them that I couldn't have him in the house because I didn't think it was fair on the cats to be scared like that, and FIL looked at me and said 'But what do you expect us to do with him?'. I DON'T BLOODY WELL CARE! He's not my pet and shouldn't be my problem!

We don't invite the PILs up any more. Which is sad, because they don't get to see DD very often. But they've made their choice!

rogersmellyonthetelly · 20/11/2011 21:05

Yanbu, we have had something very similar with my mil and her dog recently. She has been to stay twice in the last 3 months, she brings dog with her due to dog being old and not being able to leave her overnight. Last time her dog was fine, but our puppy regressed badly with her training while mil dog was here and for several weeks afterwards. This time was far worse, as her dog decided to join in with the scenting and pooped on the kitchen floor, peed in several spots all over the house, and finally in my dogs bed in my bedroom.
We have said dog cannot come again, which is a big shame, we are happy to visit her if she doesn't want to leave dog, or she can visit here without dog.

Kladdkaka · 20/11/2011 22:16

How about getting some doggy diapers and insisting the dogs wear them when in your house? It may sound a bit weird, but it would solve the problem without upsetting your mum too much.

InDulciJubilo · 21/11/2011 08:09

I was going to suggest that you tell your mother not to bnring the dogs but you might find that she agrees but brings them anyway. What would you do then? Kladdkaka has the answer! At the end of the visit, put the nappies into a carrier bag and sneak them into your mother's suitcase to take home.

I suspect that her dogs are marking territory but you could give her a Training-Your-Dog-Not-To-Pee Indoors book for Christmas and suggest that she memorises it.

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fuzzypeach1750 · 21/11/2011 08:43

Love love love the doggy dippers idea will trot off and order some now!!

Thanks everyone!

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fuzzypeach1750 · 21/11/2011 08:43

Diapers even. Blinking iPhone

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echt · 21/11/2011 08:58

Jesus, why bring a dog on a visit anyway. Wouldn't dream of it.

As for dogs pissing in my non-show home; I'd kick them from arsehole to Christmas. Actually, their owners: they, the dogs, are mere beasts. The owners are damned rude idiots.

Andrewofgg · 21/11/2011 09:47

Oh echt I do adore you, you are even more joyfully straightforward than I am!

OrmIrian · 21/11/2011 09:50

No you aren't.

I think dogs tend to behave differently when taken to stay in a strange house.

DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 21/11/2011 10:55

YANBU.

Next time they piss in your house hand your mother a cloth and a spray bottle of cleaner, point to the mess and say firmly 'your dogs have made a mess, clean it up please'.

Repeat as necessary.

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