DH has just taken DD and DS (5&7yo) out on the bike. The 7 yo is on his own bike attached to DHs by one of those arm things which keeps the front wheel off the ground, and DD is in front of him on a fixed seat on the crossbar.
It is a lovely thing for him to do, he doesn't get much time off and they love to go off on a little adventure with him.
Usually, he goes to some fields nearby with a cycle path through them, there is a bit of roadwork, but it is all in the village. The bike is long and with DD on the front is quite awkward, although DH is a very experienced rider.
Today however, as he was leaving, he mentioned going somewhere else. This would mean cycling along the fairly narrow pavement next to a busy and fast A road, crossing it, then along a single track but busy road used as a cut through, and finally along a country lane just about wide enough for two cars, which is quite busy and fast as it is the quickest route from a big town to several villages.
I said I would really rather he didn't go out there on the big long bike, and that if he waited I would come so that DD could be in the child seat on the back of my bike and his would be more stable. TBH I still would be uncomfortable with this, but I knew that he would think I was being silly for worrying about it. He didn't want to do that and said I was letting my fears ruin their fun and he was going where he wanted.
I said I felt he was disregarding how I felt about it by overruling me like that, but he turned that back to me in that I was disregarding his feelings by being so determined in not wanting them to go.
He cycled off, saying he was going to the place he had mentioned. I knew he was stopping at the shop down the road so caught up with them and said again that I would come. We didn't argue, but he said he didn't want me to and they would just do what I wanted then in a grumpy voice and cycled off.
I have no idea if he will stick to that or not, but that's kind of beside the point because I don't know if I am justified in even wanting to stop him, but I kind of think why take the risk when there are lovely places that the children asked to go to nearby?
So, what do you think? I don't know who is right. Am I being overly scared by not wanting him to take the children on this 'bike train' on the busy roads even only for a couple of miles? I know I am always the one out of the two of us with the fears iykwim, so it's possible.
Or is he being unreasonably flippant about the potential dangers?