to be irritated by mums referring to their child as being clever because they are dry in the night

[wagonweel1]

One of my aquantainces on facebook has this as her status. Her dd is only 2 and her status reads "so proud of xxx she is such a clever little lady, dry in the night already". Its so irritating. I suppose its a bit of a touchy subject for me because my 9 year old dd still has problems in the night and is using a bedwetting alarm and taking medication. Many of the responses on fb agree that her dd is "such a clever little lady". Well no, that doesnt make her clever, its just something that happens. My daughter is no less clever because she isnt dry in the night. Sorry, I'm just letting off steam a bit. And I hate fb boasting about children.

Not at that age tigermoll how can mentioning your child has a dry bed at the age of 2 be in any way creepy?

Look at MN. Posters talk about all sorts of bodily functions regarding their kids and some of them have photos of their kids on their profile.

That's got to be a creepy feeling if your Mum is discussing your first period on the world wide web and everyone can see your pic.

Im funny about anybody putting their kids achievements on facebook , they are clever for everything kind of bugs me but thats my own thing , children do things as they progress its not clever its what they do , OP i hope you get the problems sorted your not being unreasonable about this , not weeing in the night isnt a clever thing to do at all its just something thats happened ,

Being dry at night is a curious thing, my DD was dry at night by 18 months (I'll say this without boasting, it's just a matter of fact ) However she wasn't dry by day until a whole year after that, so it definitely wasn't related to her ability. We co-slept and she breast fed all night so she was taking on a load of liquid overnight. She did a massive wee each morning, in her nappy, as I did keep her in nappies until she was day time potty trained, as I wasn't brave enough to just go without them completely. Even after ditching nappies at age 2.5 she's only ever wet the bed once, she was so ill she was delerious with a fever then, I saw her start to wee so quick smart moved her to the toilet.

I have a DS who's nearly 2, he's not dry by night. I'll be interested to see how it goes with his potty training etc. He doesn't BF or co-sleep.

I think the BF during the night and cosleeping may have an impact on the age when a child is dry, I only vaguely know that it's believed to somehow have an effect on the production of the hormone which is required.

My brother is one of the sharpest people I know and he wet the bed until 11. Once at work my desperate mum confessed this and was amazed at how common late bedwetting is. Loads of her workmates had or were still experiencing it with their children.
My DD told me she would not need pull ups once she started school. She still has some accidents at nearly 6. It is hard to plaster on the fake smile and do the middle of the night pj change etc so I can see why you would be a bit sensitive. I agree though that to equate a bodily function with intelligence is a bit wankerish.

Try not to be upset by it, a lot of parents like a good old boast.

And if it makes you feel any better, I was dry day and night well before I was two. I still have shit A level results

I think its one thing to discuss your child's bladder and bowel habits on a forum such as mumsnet, - this is what the site is for, talking about parenting etc.

But its another post intimate details of your child's excretory functions on FB. People have all manner of friends on fb, not all of who are interested/appropriate people to be sharing this with. I have had to consider disfriending people because their feeds become a constant litany of the contents of nappies and how their child did something perfectly unremarkable.

Ditto to people who post pictures of food they're about to eat - WHO DO YOU IMAGINE CARES??

I personally get fed up of hearing about other people's bowel and bladder functions on facebook.

I don't actually care if your baby did a poo in his nappy or on his potty. You might be well pleased but I am eating my lunch and couldn't give a toss. I do not need to know the exact details of another human being's bodily evacuations. I get very fed up of all the wee and poo status updates. Sometimes I feel like posting "I had a wee on the toilet too and I didn't wet my pants either"

Just because a person is only two or three does not automatically mean their pissing and shitting habits need to be broadcast on the world wide web to attract the praise of others.

I am actually reading and writing this whilst on the toilet.

I too hate the inappropriate dishing out of praise - and l understand why it would rub a bit with the OP. A particular one of mine is - 'Oh well done you' (to a newly expectant couple). Its congratulating someone on shagging basically .

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Dont even start me off on childrens beauty pageants/bonny babies etc...grrrr - how is it right to teach a child they have beaten other children and are better than them because they have a cute face or whatever.

I understand your irritation (my youngest is still in pyjama pants).

Hopefully the clever is in reference to the fact that it is unusual for a 2 year old to be dry at night rather than the mum really thinking that her dd has higher IQ.

My dd was dry at night as soon as we trained during the day and as a mum of 3 I know that it's luck and no reflection on me or the children.

YABU, parents like to talk about their children, in the main. FB just gives people an extra outlet to do that. As with everything on FB, if you don't like your friends, bin them. If you do like them, then you know that what they're writing is harmless and not intended to hurt. It gets on my tits a bit when people make everything about them. They're talking about their child, not yours.

I find it more puzzling why people have 'acquaintances' on FB, why would you? It's the most pointless thing.

Don't have people you don't really give a shit about on FB then bitch about them when they post stuff.

It's fine to talk about your children but do you really need to talk about their pissing and shitting habits with your 200 facebook friends?
The worst offender in my case is a family member so not bin-able.

I'm happy to see little videos of them playing, or taking their first steps, or just looking adorable or whatever.

I do not need to know when and where they last opened their bowels. There is a thing called Too Much Information. It might be harmless but it is not necessary.

I'm sure half of what you (not you personally IYSWIM) write bores them rigid in return. It's what happens when you give people a public platform, they talk about stuff.

I think people should be restricted to two status updates per week perhaps. Maybe three if they have actually done something worth writing about.

That would put a stop to the poo updates, and the updates about what they are having for tea tonight, and probably the annoying "copy and paste" statuses too.

Most of what they write does bore me rigid. I am sure my life on FB is not that fascinating but at least I am not boring people rigid with it five times per day.

Well yes, C&P statuses make me want to gouge out my eyeballs I have to admit. And bloody bra colours and handbags and chocolate bar shitey riddle things.

Would you fancy the job as a FB mod? That really would bore the arse off you :o

I think the thing is, that people can't in this day and age, openly boast about their own achievements, but they can about their children and some take every step to do so on the most mundane aspects. Also for a few years, you are still living in the bubble that all people are totally interested in everything your children do.

I have one contact on there who hated kids, and now her hourly posts are down to the number of spoons of baby rice the kid has eaten.

Why not post some amusing self related one liners - got myself dressed, ate all my breakfast and to work on time, what a clever girl I am.

Actually the ones I hate the most are the mysterious ones, obviously pertaining to someone they are friends with on FB but not actually stating that. they always begin with "I wish some people would...."

So you could try a few of those op!

I have 2 dgs [brothers] one was dry at night by 2.4 and the other is still sometimes wet at 5.2.They are both absolutely perfect,clever,handsome,loving.......mine :0 :o

YABalittleU. She didn't write it addressed to you, she is proud of her child. Just because you don't tell other people how proud you are of your children doesn't mean it is wrong for others to.

It's not clever, it's just a physical development thing...but loads of them are equated with cleverness with young children for some reason.

Ok, so I am probably being a tad unreasonable then. I agree. Its just irritating. I'm not bitter about the fact that her dd is dry, its great, its just the way she thinks she is clever.

My problem really is that I should close down my facebook account. I dont put anything on there myself, but a few of my friends are now divorced and have some wild nights out and I do like to look at their funny statuses and see what theyv been up to.

Its also irritating when some people post things like "snuggling on the couch with my favourite man and lovely dh watching a film". No your not, your on facebook. Grrr. And dont get me started on the ones congratulating their children on fabulous school reports, when their children are only 6 and not even on fb.

Yep you should close fb