AIBU to be upset with him?

[luvsaschnoozer]

Dp has his works night out tonight, I'm 37 weeks pg and he said he would be home right after the meal, so about half 8/9. I wasn't that bothered. So it goes half 10 and I phone him to see if he's staying out later and if he has his keys, he says that he has his keys not to wait up but he will be home soon. 10mins later he phones me, I answer but its clear his phone has called me from his pocket, and I can clearly hear him laughing and chating with drunk woman. Now I'm not saying he's cheating or whatever but I'm really upset. I'm sitting at home, was waiting for him because he said he would bring dinner home for me but he's choose to stay out, having a great time with some woman and I feel like shit.

are you sure chatting todrunk women and not drunk women chatting to her mates?

If it is a works do, he will presumably be chatting with male and female colleagues. There could have been lots of other men either side of him.. so I really wouldnt get too stressed about it.

I understand why you are upset. But I think it was U for him to promise to be home straight after the meal. It is natural to drink and talk after the meal, not just scurry off. And unless he has a track record for being unfaithful, what you heard is probably innocent.

I actually had a similar thing happen to me except I was the woman at the works do. No way would I have been interested in the man I was talking to and I am sure he felt the same - we were just having a good time, along with other colleagues.

agree could be a woman talking near by nowt to do with him,or female colleage?
try not to worry

He never goes out really, so I feel bad that I'm upset with him, he should be able to have a good night out. He has aspergers (sp?) So hasn't got many friends. I would say he's a good guy, he can be mean often but is always sorry very quickly, I feel I'm always having to defend him and convince people he's good. I just don't know. I love him 100% and I know he loves me 100% too, I just wish he would think of me and my feelings, not as an afterthought.

You are not an afterthought. Most of the time he is thinking about you.

Tonight though, he is out and having a good time.

This time next year, you will be out with your workmates/friends. You will have had the best intentions with regards to coming home but, you'll be having a great time and want it to go on a little while longer. You will call your DH, let him know you are fine and have keys. You will tell him to go to bed.

That is what is happening now.

You love him. He loves you. Nothing bad has happened. It's OK.

The thing is, it prob is a colleage, but we met at work and got together at the night out, hes very shy and i did all the chasing really, he doesnt know how good looking he is and i worry maybe if hes drunk and another woman was to come on to him, he wouldnt say no, or not straight away. and im sick all the time and not feeling so great and we have a 18month ds so im always to exhausted. he never thinks of consequences, im just over thinking things, right? i just wish he would be home by now.

You are over thinking things...yes.

I don't see how on earth you could know if the woman you heard even drinks alcohol?

Make yourself a sandwich if you're hungry and try to be a tad understanding that he may be having the best night he's had in ages but perhaps feels too guilty to let you know.

I understand your frustration but perhaps he 'picked up a vibe' from you that it wouldn't be ok to say "Yes I have a key, don't wait up"

Is everything ok?

my gut feeling is that the colleagues persuaded him to stay. If he finds it hard to negotiate social situations he may have found it hard to say 'im going home' because he knows that isnt wrong. but he does know letting other woman do stuff to him is wrong and he will know where his bread is buttered. Its sat. morning now and i bet you are settled together somewhere happliy with your dc. x