So apparently I'm worth more working to dh than I am being on maternity leave with 3 small dc

[BarbieLovesKen]

I went back to work yesterday.

I have had absolutely no help whatsoever for the past 6 months (maternity leave) from dh as, in fairness, he had berm working his bum off.

Tonight I come in from work at 5 (as my lovely boss told me to go home early) to a clean house, 3 happy, washed, fed dc waiting 2 spend 2 quality hours playing with me, a massive bunch of flowers, a bottle of wine and dh preparing a beautiful meal for when dc were in bed (homemade carbonara and chicken breast stuffed with sundries tomatoes and brie)

Now that I think of it - this was a regular occurance when ive been working but has
never, ever happened while I was on maternity leave ( alot in recent years as there is a 16 month old gap between ds and dd2 so took a year with ds and just worked for 4 months before going on maternity leave with dd2)

I really, really appreciate what dh has done tonight. Ice told him so snd I'm feeling very appreciated and happy that said, AIBU to feel a little sour that obviously my role at home clearly wasn't as valued as much as work g is by dh?

Make the most of it [gift]

Lovely as my DH is, I have never come home to all that [jealous]
I can kind of see what you're saying, kind of, but I think it's churlish to look for a negative.
Having said that, no help in 6 months of maternity leave is crap - I would expect some regardless of how hard DH was working, although I know from experience I'd have to Kick his but for it sometimes . But from this sentence you seemed to think it was fair: "I have had absolutely no help whatsoever for the past 6 months (maternity leave) from dh as, in fairness, he had berm working his bum off" ..did you object at the time? If yes, and no help was ever forthcoming, YANBU. But if you were fine with it YABU

Balls, [jealous] meant to be

Oh come on give him a break! He has (correctly imo) assumed that working outside the home will be more tiring for you and he's taken steps accordingly. I think it's YOU that's appreciated, not the work.

Nice gesture from your DH, enjoy your evening.

Maybe it is not so much appreciation that you have been to work, as much as acknowledgement that it is hard to go back to work after mat leave, and that you might need to be made a fuss of a little?

He may have got it wrong on lots of counts (we can't know) but he loves you and is proud of you. I reckon.

Yes. You're probably all right. I feel bad now - it really wad a lively thing to do and I sort of know that it'll happen regularly now simply because I'm working.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that for (almost) the past 2 years, I've had no help - because I was "off". Dh asked me where dd2s vests were kept last week which I was a bit shocked about yet today, because I wax out working, he managed perfectly. He has not cleaned, he has thrown his dirty socks on the floor etc for months on end but I've worked for 2 days and I now have a new husband.

I really am grateful. I really am. I suppose I find it a bit funny because, let's face it, it's bot actually a holiday being home with 3 under 6.,,

You're not wrong at all, OP. Men don't get it. But you've got one at least who appreciates the scenario he can "get".