Do you think that this is leading to choppy waters?

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I have a friend, known her for about 3 years.
We both have fertility problems and thats how we became friends, she understood, i understood, nice to chat to some one who "gets it" iyswim
She became pregnant and asked me to be with her & her DH as a birthing partner.
It was amazing, the most amazing experience of my life.
I began to babysit once a week for her while she & her dh went out. I would do some ironing for her, wash up and do a bit of cleaning. She has no family near by, therefore, no one to offer her any breaks.It is a 30 minute drive to her house form mine, she doesnt drive.
I adore her LO. I am Godmother now.
Speaking to some other friends, it seems that actually she does go out quite a bit (Cinema, meals etc).
I have an 7 year old and have not been out with my dh for about 18 months as we have no one to babysit for us. We go out seperately, but rarely.
We both work FT.
I have taken her LO for the day when my friend is tired. My DS has met her once, and does not know her.
My lovely friend was severely sexually abused by her dad. She still sees her parents regurly
Over Christmas her parents are coming to stay at her house overnignht for one night. (They live a few hours away)
She has asked me to have her baby overnight as she doesnt want her baby and dad to be in contact..alone. (My friend and her dh are going on a works do leaving parents at her house alone) I NEED to make sure this baby is safe from the paedophile that is my friends dad..that goes without saying.

Im peeved that she gets to go out loads more than she lets on, and i am worried that she will expect me to have her baby overnight from here on in as well as once a week which i find hard as they dont get in till gone midnight, and i have to go to work early the next day.
I find it very very difficult to understand why she wont say NO to her parents rather than uproot her baby to a travel cot over night.
I just felt really bad for her having no family nearby and i thought never having any kind of break.
What do i do? Dont really know how to say no if she asks me again in the future.
Dont know how to handle the fact that her dad still visits knowing what he is and what he has done.
Feel terrible for moaning about it, but i am really feeling a bit taken advantage of because i never say no myself.

Babysit and tell her to come and get her baby after the works do?

I NEED to make sure this baby is safe from the paedophile that is my friends dad..that goes without saying

No YOU don't, SHE does - it is her problem not yours ( that's sounds harsh but can't think of another way to word it)

didnt you do this thread before?

She will need to work something out as the child gets older wrt to GP's visiting and you can't be expected to have the child every time.

Babysit for the night, but start to say no on occasion to the weekly babysitting sessions? Or explain that your feel the relationship is becoming one sided, ask her to come and visit you and your LO, let her get to know your DC more and ask for the babysitting to be reciprocated?

Ask her to babysit for you and see what her response is.

ditzy this is stepped up, more problems to contend with, im tottally at a loss.

Just say no.

I'm sorry but I don't think your friend is telling you the truth. I very much doubt that victim of sexual abuse - that they have been able to acknowledge and tell other people that they suffered - would agree to her abuser staying in her home with her child at all. How come the night the parents are coming is the same night as the do - if that was you wouldn't you say 'oh no we'll be out then, come another time'. I think she likes having a babysitter on hand, you are being taken advantage of.