AIBU for being worried?

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DH hasn't come home from work yet.

He gets off work at 16:00pm.

Is this a one off?

Do you not have any means of contacting him? Would he have gone for a drink after work?

yanbu to be worried, although i'm sure it's unfounded.

Have you tried to contact him?

Have you tried to contact him?

Has he not told you he's going out? Is he usually late?

He said that he was going to stay for thirsty Thursday (they put beers and stuff in the fridge at work for them).

Except he isn't there.

When I tried to call they said that he and a few of the lads left a few hours ago. I tried him on his mobile, but he hasn't answered.

Does he drive, or use public transport?

He cycles. But I don't think he hasn't been stupid enough to cycle home when drunk.

At least I hope not.

I tried calling him again, but I still haven't got an answer.

Ok so he said he was going to stay out. I can understand you being annoyed if he isn't where he said he was going to be but I guess they have just transferred the proceedings to a pub and he doesn't feel the need to let you know.

I wouldn't worry. Did he say at what time you could expect him?

Usually on a thirsty thursday he is home by 8:00ish.

I am not mad or looking for a row. I am just beginning to worry a bit and I can't tell if I am over reacting. It's just that he never stays out like this.

YANBU to worry, I would too. Sorry no helpful advice, although have you tried phoning his mates (if you have their numbers) I know you may come across a bit mad if you do, but might stop you worrying! Hope he gets in soon!

Ok so very out of character. Yes, I would be worried too. Agree you could try calling his friends. Would rather risk potential embarrassment of DH being "checked up on" than worry about his whereabouts.

I'd be really worried too. I hope he gets home soon and that he's safe.

Well.

He's come home, drunk out of his mind.

Went to bed and began talking about how everyone was jealous of our love and how it made us like superheros.

And then got sick all over our bed.

So new question, AIBU to hope he has the worst hangover tomorrow?

Glad he is safe! And no YANBU

glad to hear he's OK. Don't worry - sounds like he will pay for it with a stonking headache in the morning.

Twice. He got sick all over our bed, twice.

I did laugh out loud at 'it made us like superheroes!' :o

YADNBU to hope for a terrible hangover! Do you have any loud, boisterous DCs that are available to wake him up super early tomorrow morning?

Jane what you've said just made me think of this and LOL :o

Well, he's nursing a hangover this morning, but he was still in pretty good spirits so I don't think that it was nearly bad enough.

Oh well. Time for one of these

It is worrying when DHs do not arrive home on time. My XDH used to travel on the same train home each day - the 5.18 from Paddington. The 6 o'clock news on TV said that there had been a train crash involving the 5.18 from Paddington. I went cold but tried to keep calm in front of my two small DCs. We didn't have a phone then but I asked a neighbour if I could use theirs to phone the 'emergency number'. I never got through because it was solidly engaged. I would never use that number again because it just makes the worry worse.

My neighbour drove to the local station to find out what he could and came back with my XDH. He had been late for the 5.18 train (well, he said so anyway) and found that all trains to the west had been cancelled so he just crossed London to Waterloo and got a train from there. Courtesy of the neighbour, he arrived home at 9.30pm to my immense relief.

AngelofTheLordiscomingDown - I am so glad he was OK.

Where's his bike, can he remember?!

I am a worrier - DS is never late home from school so after 10 minutes I was in bits. And his school's only at the end of the road!