... you won't believe this one ...

[cruelladepoppins]

My 12-year-old DS asked me to post this for the Mumsnet jury ...

I have shown DS how to run his bath in the evening and now expect him to do that.

He thinks I should run his bath for him every evening as I apparently only spend the time I have saved "on the computer" [like, now].

OK Mumsnetters, we await your judgement!

Erm, my children who are 11 and 3/4's and 9 run their own baths and organise their own showers.

HIBU. His friends will laugh at him if he still needs his mummy to run his bath and put him in his ickle jammies.

My 3yo runs her own bath...

My 5 yr old runs his own bath (obviously I check the temp before he gets in it).

But you know, if your 12 yr old wants to be out done by a 5 yr old.....

YANBU

12 years old?! Surely he doesn't want his mum to still run his bath? Is he a mummy's boy or lazy?

Tell him about the boy I used to live next to whose mother was still running his bath and washing his hair when he was 18 and 6 foot 3.

How we laughed......

My 6 year old is capable of running his own bath. Tell your DS that :o

If he insists on you running his bath, make sure to put Matey in it, give him a rubber duck, and stand outside the door calling 'are you okay in there, special soldier?' at regular intervals. He'll get the message, I'm sure . . .

He wants you to run his bath ?

Is he willing to give up his leisure time to cook for you, run your bath, clean the house etc?

Hmmm??

Mine are much younger and run their own baths.

Also - the time you should spend on the computer you're cooking his tea, so going on the computer while he runs his bath is a fair trade...No?

I like his negatiation style though, he'll go a long way!

Do you change his pants for him too? Wipe his bottom? Tell him to run his own bath. :) :)

My 13 year old says he is being pathetic and a bit 'sad'.

At 12, if he doesn't run his own bath he will smell horrible.

At 12, he is only 4 years away from being legally able to marry and it is pretty poor show of he can't run himself a bath and wash himself thoruoughly

At 12, if his mates ever found out his mum thought he couldn't be trusted to run himself a bath he would be the laughing stock of his year. After all, if he can't run himself a bath what else isn't he trusted to do- like being allowed to go out unsupervised by mum?

You waited till he was 12 to show him how to run a bath? Do you still wipe his bum?

It's not just about the bath. Is he trying to tell you something about how he perceives your emotional and actual availability? AND I'm not trying to imply at all that you should get off the laptop and be a devoted slave to your kids. Rather that it is about how something is perceived by a child. And maybe he is trying to be 'adult' in tackling it by involving a forum obviously valued by you.

Does he expect you to squeeze his toothpaste onto his toothbrush?

Aye, I think that threatening to tell his mates should cure him of this.

12 ffs! I think you are being perfectly reasonable.

Well if he insists go up there right now and turn that COLD tap on and fill that bath

If he doesn't like cold baths then...

Don't do anything for him which he could do for himself.

And if there is anything he could do if he was shown how, show him how, more than once if need be, but TNS about this.

And make him take his fair share of the household chores.

Run him a lovely bath. Throw in a pink bath bomb and scatter Rose petals in the water.

Ooh he is not pleased and says you are all biased.

But also, thanks nursenic from me, you make a good point.

Wow, I pity his future wife!

Not biased but busy!

Hahaha, on AIBU we don't pull our punches, even when the hapless poster is 12!

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