To think his ex wearing black at our wedding...

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When DH and I got married his ex turned u in a black satin skin tight bandeau dress split to the thigh, ummmmm?! AIBU to think this was a tad OTT?

One of my friends wore the tightest, shortest, most cleavage enhancing dress I have ever seen to my wedding. I didn't notice until looking at pics after, in each shot she is pouting, leaning towards the camera thrusting bosums (very ample) at the photographer while her dp looked on a little embarrassed. Weddings are funny old things!

Bright red dress I should add, she really stood out!

This is such a weird English thing. In Ireland I would say at least 15% of female guests will wear black to a wedding. It's chic, slimming and doesn't identify as being too summer or too winter.

It may have been split to the thigh, but wasn't thigh length? That's hardly indecent.

Catch a grip OP. YABSU.

Had she turned up in a white puffy dress, maybe...

She could have worn a white dress if she wanted to be a bitch!

I wouldn't wear black to a wedding but I have when I've only gone to the evening do.

x post grainger. Maybe the op had a black wedding dress??

Do you really not see the potential for it being a statement? An ex wearing black to a wedding? It is stuff urban legends are made of!

People have strange ideas about what is appropriate dress at the best of times. I'd say no big deal in the big scheme of things- the operative word here is "EX". :)

if she sat crying into a black lace hanky then YANBU if she didn't meh

My brothers ex girlfriend wore a white dress that looked quite bridal to my wedding. I was a bit surprised when I saw it but felt sorry for her as it was obviously her trying to make a statement.

See, about ummm 15 years ago most women wore suits to weddings. Regardless of age. Now most women under 50 (approx, i dunno) wear dresses.

Black dress is WORLDS apart from black suit.
If your future queen doesn't have a problem with it, why should you?

It doesn't matter what 'guests' wear. The prime people at a wedding are the bride and groom followed by their parents, followed by best man, bridesmaids etc.

Any other people there will be unnoticed unless they are known and then Chinese whispers will be prolific but not to the detriment of the occasion.

When my DH died, my stepsons asked me if their mother could be present at the funeral. I loved them and said that she could be. I had met her a a few times at family events like christenings etc. She thanked me for loving him and allowing her to attend. Ignore how a 'nonentity dressed at your big event.

Slightly o/t but that's not going to stop me. At a wedding a few years ago a cousin of the bride and a cousin of the groom (both female, why don't we have separate words for male and female cousins as they do in French, oh Andrew get back to the point) arrived in identical outfits.

One BIL and I managed to manoeuvre them into a position where the other BIL could get them both in a photo. DW was riled with all three of us but the photo was a gem!

Difficult to say without seeing the actual dress, but it does sound inappropriate. Probably most of the other guests were laughing at her

I was a bit about some of the outfits at my wedding, women dressed as though they were going to work, men and women dressed rather beachy and my fave - a child in bridesmaids dress complete with posy. She had not been asked to be a bridesmaid.

However, I am realising other people are perhaps more relaxed about what you wear to a wedding than me. I have quite traditional views on it, other people don't and I suspect I'm in the minority.

Kickingking Random kids turning up in bridesmaids outfits seems to be an emerging trend. Bit odd imo