to be fed up of people commenting that my baby looks cold?

[Sophiesworld]

I know this is a constant bugbear for parents but DH and I have just had it one too many times over the last couple of weeks!

Today DD was wearing a fleece sleepsuit over her normal outfit and covered up with a blanket folded in four so quadruple thickness. Admittedly no hat (she went into meltdown when I tried to put that on before we left the house) but she has a nice padded head protector and she wasn't crying. And yet an elderly couple felt that need to comment that she looked cold.

Now, had they said DD looked hungry (permanently sucking fists/sticking out tongue - 12 week growth spurt) or tired (rarely sleeps during the day - life is far too exciting!) they might have had a point!

How about 'That mum looks tired/hungry/worried that despite constantly striving to meet her baby's needs she is somehow failing miserably' for a change?

Sorry - rant over :o

YANBU. Its my pet hate. My FIL always feels my babies' feet and says theyre cold. Drives me bonkers!!!
If i had a bit more back bone I would politely tell him to fuck off.

:o

maybe they are right and you are wrong :)

I expect so ditzy!

Ignore them all.

If the baby is cold, she'll soon let you know!!!

Maybe you could just smile and nod - you know they're barking mad, but just indulge them for ten seconds of your time! This is probably not worth boiling your piss about.

YANBU!!! DD is 2y 6mo. She is very independent. For the last 2 days she has taken her coat off on the way home from getting DS from school. So many people have said to me "Isn't she cold?". Well, she took the coat off and refuses to have it back on, so I assume no. It didn't help that today she just had a short sleeved t-shirt on, albeit with a vest underneath, so not exactly warm. But what can I do??? I am sure if she feels cold, she will put it back on (she can do zips, buttons herself so doesn't need help).

My PIL are constantly telling us the children 'look tired'...they are 7 and 10 and have early bedtimes and plenty of sleep...drives me nuts!

maybe you should tell them that?

"I feel like you're calling me a failure as a parent"
that should stop them.

You were confident that she was well wrapped up so ignore the criticism. However I do wonder if some parents are sensitive to their babies surroundings. I see babies with bare feet when the Mums are wearing boots, squinting into the sun when Mum has sunglasses and some are not aware that it's OK if you're moving around in the cold, but if you're sat in a pushchair - you're gonna get very cold, very quickly.

Nickelbabe - if only I had the guts :o Much easier to come home and rant about it from the comfort of my own sofa!

solomanswife - I know what you mean about babies being cold sat in a pushchair. I'm always very aware of this because I'm often quite warm by the time I've been pounding the pavements for an hour or so (due to aforementioned sleep aversion!) but realise this is not the case for DD.

Yup. True. I have lost count of how many times a 12 week old baby thinks "hang on, that sensation I am feeling now, must mean I am cold. I need to let my mum know instantly...."

Her head might be cold. Her toes might be cold, likewise her hands. She is not moving about, but laying still, and losing heat rapidly through her head. And she cant regulate her own temperature.

If the nape of her neck is warm, then it is a good sign that she is not cold. But it might be a good idea to try a hat, or a lose fitting hood.

It is never too early to learn that hats are part of appropriate winter attire.

This is a pet hate of mine,too. Both my kids have hated being too hot, and scream their heads off if they overheat. I know this, so I dress them accordingly. I continually see people looking askance at the baby not wearing a hat, when her hands,feet and neck are warm. Trust your instincts, you're the mum. And Yanbu

She does normally wear a hat, it's just that today that was clearly the WORST THING IN THE WORLD EVER!! Doesn't help that most of her hats are too big for her and fall down over her eyes, but I've just had an exciing parcel delivered from Mothercare which should contain, amongst other things, 2 extra small hats...

I would be putting a hat on a baby in this weather.they do lose heat very quickly and I think many new mothers are so paranoid about the dangers of overheating they go too far the other way.Also like to keep their ears warm

Have just tried new hats on DD and they are too small, dammit!

To be fair, the person saying it to you doesn't know that 20 other people have already said it to you... but then I can't understand why people feel the need to comment, so on balance, YA(sort of not)BU!

I put a hat on my 9mo dd2 but she takes it off and throws it out her pram and I lose it. I'm guessing she isn't cold.

YANBU. I get comments like that all the time. DS keeps pulling his hat off in his pram.
Your DC would have let you know if he was cold!
Ignore the comments.

Meh my DD never wore a hat at that age -she would scream and scream. it's a myth that babies will lose vast amounts of heat through their heads if they don't wear hats. YANBU.

Of course it's not a myth, zimm!

Adults do too, how is it a myth?!

Anyhoo, keeping a hat on 16 mo old dd is a perpetual battle, so I've bought lots of jumpers etc with hoods, as for some reason they're acceptable!

Actually, it is a myth that we lose lots of heat through our heads.

I have the same problem though, OP. I have the warmest 23 month old ever. He won't tolerate a hat for more than about 5 seconds. Even a coat is a screaming match and he gets all clammy and sweaty with one on, so I assume he's too warm. Even on a long pushchair walk where I'm getting warm but he isn't.

The number of comments I've had from people about him not being wrapped up enough... Well, you try and get his coat on then.

It is a myth www.misconceptionjunction.com/index.php/2011/06/you-dont-lose-most-of-your-body-heat-through-your-head/

yanbu My mum and mil especially do this and it drives me mad

Will she not wear a coat on top of the sleepsuit?