This probably going to turn into a bit of a ranty long one, but I will do my best to keep it short.
Our mum has recently started dialysis 3 days a week, yesterday was her usual treatment day and she is normally home around 1.30pm. I always call from work to check that she is ok, however yesterday I couldn't get any reply all afternoon. I wasn't too worried as her home phone line had been playing up now and again last week and thought that if there was a problem the hospital would've contacted me.
My sis usually calls mum around 3pm (she lives 300 miles away) so I txt her to find out if she had managed to get through, she hadn't. Around 3.30pm I rang home to check the eldest dd 12 had got home from school, no reply so I assumed she had decided to go to visit my mum which she does now and then. I continued to call my mum with no success. I also let my sis know that my DD would be with mum so not to worry too much.
Around 4.30pm I called home again and my eldest DD answered, apparently she had taken it upon herself to go to a friends after school and had just got back in. I was not at all happy with this as she hadn't let me know, she does have a mobile but it is never charged! This is the first time she has ever done anything like this and I told her off for being so stupid and not letting me know where she was.
I finally left work at 5 promising my sis to call at mums to check she was ok, still convinced the phone was broken. As it turned out I got stuck in an horrendous traffic jam and by the time I'd collected the youngest DD from nursery it was nearly 7pm. I got to my mums and the house was in complete darkness, I was staring to freak a bit so I rang the hospital and they were certain she had been dropped off as normal.
When I went into the house it was obvious that mum hadn't been back at all, so I rang my sis to let her know and she said she would ring the hospital again. Whilst she did that I rang home and the eldest DD told me that the hospital had rang and mum was still there!
Mum is fine, just had a funny turn or possible tummy bug, still in but ok, I've spent most of the afternoon with her.
But finally I get to the point, thankyou if you are still reading.
All I get from my sis is, you should do this or that or the other, she never lets up. She practically blamed my eldest DD for the fact that we didn't know mum wasn't at home because she went to a friends. And then wanted to know what I'd done to punish her? Err chuff all because we were stressed, hungry and tired last night.
She had a go about my exH, I mean I know he is an arse but seriously asking for his number (which I don't have) to call him and tell him to back off from our DD's?
She then brought up the eldest's DD's skiving from school last year which is over with and sorted as far as I'm concerned, but she thinks I should have had a conversation with the mum of the boy she skived off with. I didn't think it necessary at the time, I had a conversation with the school which was far more important to me. Also discussing this boy, really intrusive comments like are his parents married, how long have they been together, oh he has a brother does he how old is he. WTF?
And when I have the nerve to actually stick up for myself I'm the one being fucking defensive! I wouldn't mind if she actually got off her arse and came up and did something useful but she just give orders over the phone and quite frankly I am really fed up with it.
So sorry this is so long, feel better now it 's out now.