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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have expected a little bit of help?

58 replies

IvysEdgelessSafetycube · 16/11/2011 18:17

I am ill. really. Laryngitis, conjunctivitis, strep throat, and a persistent cough that hurts and is making me vomit.
I got back from the GP with a bunch of prescriptions, the most important for me at the moment being the cough suppressant, which has one of those child proof tops. I couldn't open it, no matter how hard I tried. I politely asked DH for help, and he told me no. That I should stop forcing myself to cough, trying to get sympathy from him and that my body will sort itself out.
I am just a bit fucking furious angry.
I swigged some Covonia from the bottle instead, but I really need that bottle open.
I feel like crap and I can't understand why he is being so arsey about this. It's not like I am making it up, and I don't want any fucking sympathy, I just want that bottle opened so I can feel better.

well, I CBA to cook dinner, DCs are in bed already and I am not hungry.
I am going to run myself a bath, cough my tonsils out and cry at the injustice of it all.

AIBU?

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BarkisIsWillin · 16/11/2011 18:53

YANBU to be annoyed at dh. YABU to not cook his dinner - just add copious amounts of magic ingredients saliva and snot and stir well Grin

NatashaBee · 16/11/2011 18:56

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LaurieFairyCake · 16/11/2011 18:56

If he doesnt relent?!? Shock

HE can think HIS body can heal itself if he wants, that shouldn't impact on him opening a bottle for YOU.

He's a fucking arse!! Please tell him that from me.

Whathashappenedtomyboobs · 16/11/2011 18:56

Nasty man

OhCobblers · 16/11/2011 19:01

what a nasty, evil little shit - i'm very sorry OP but that behaviour is foul.

I 100% agree with tethers 2 comments.

ouryve · 16/11/2011 19:04

Use his head to open the bottle. Insensitive prick.

Pekka · 16/11/2011 19:05

I suggest you give him a big kiss, right on the lips, with some tongue action. Then hope for the best!

pissedrightoff · 16/11/2011 19:06

The cock-o-meter is off the scale with this one!

Shame the bastard into doing it, phone his mum! Or any kind strong friend to come round and do it for you whilst shooting withering looks in his general direction.

Roll on the next time he is ill and we shall see just how well his body copes on its own.

mamamoonmim · 16/11/2011 19:07

what an utter cock.

I would just say 'hunnie I'm really ill, please open this for me'
to make him feel bad for saying no originally.

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IvysEdgelessSafetycube · 16/11/2011 19:09

BIW- untortunately there isn't much snot, maybe that's why he thinks I exaggerating. I should offer to let him squeeze my tonsil spots.

and I do want to cry. I don't care if my body can heal itself, I want to feel better now.

Further inspection of the bottle has brought me to the conclusion that I am either a weakling, the lid is super strong or broken, because even sitting on the floor and leaning all my body weight on it won't press the lid down properly.
maybe I am doing it wrong.

oh, and DH, if you are reading this, rather than taking offense at the comments, please take a moment to consider my feelings and why I posted this in the first placr.

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Dialsmavis · 16/11/2011 19:10

My Ex used to be vile to me when I was ill, really odd

GypsyMoth · 16/11/2011 19:11

That is actually quite worrying... I cannot believe someone would do that. Really, I could never look at him in the same light again

IWantWine · 16/11/2011 19:12

Pekka I suggest you give him a big kiss, right on the lips, with some tongue action. Then hope for the best!

I second that :)

VioletNotViolent · 16/11/2011 19:14

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browneyesblue · 16/11/2011 19:14

You don't really get snotty with strep throat - it's one of the things that distinguishes it from a cold. You have my sympathy - I've been struggling to rid myself of strep throat for the past few weeks, but it has persisted and it has really wiped me out. And I don't even have the rest of your illnesses.

Is it one of the bottles where you push the sides together, rather than push down on the lid? Failing that, perhaps a local Mumsnetter can pop round and open it (while glaring at your DH)?

Lick his eyeballs...

hiddenhome · 16/11/2011 19:15

Can you pour some boiling water over the top which will soften it and perhaps make it more pliable? I'm a nurse and sometimes I can't get the tops off the childproof bottles due to them being crap faulty.

My ex used to pick on me when I was ill too and ds1 (his son) has a tendancy to do it as well Sad

If my dh did that to me I'd be seriously considering the relationship.

Backtobedlam · 16/11/2011 19:15

He sounds really spiteful. I'd go and knock on a neighbours door and ask them to do it, and remember this next time he asks you to do something, anything

hiddenhome · 16/11/2011 19:17

Yes, potter to a neighbour's house and ask them. Also, next time he's sick, hide all the bloody meds which might make him feel better Angry

Utter pig.

VioletNotViolent · 16/11/2011 19:17

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Rikalaily · 16/11/2011 19:17

Seriously he is a dick, does he not know how nasty Strep throat is, let alone the other things on top. I would hit him over the head with the frigging bottle and tell him to fuck off to his parents for the night seeing as he's zero help to you.

I'm steaming pissed off for you and I hope he catches it! Make sure you cough in his face all night while he's sleeping.

thepollydoll · 16/11/2011 19:40

Maybe try to explain to him that his belief that the body will fight infection itself is all very well and good but imposing his belief on your body is wrong. If you want your meds, he should damn well respect that.

But I love lisaro's suggestion - breathe on him :)

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IvysEdgelessSafetycube · 16/11/2011 23:40

he opened it, under much duress and with lots of huffing and puffing...

then more drama because there was no food.

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mamalovesmojitos · 16/11/2011 23:46

Op, I'm sorry, but he sounds like a nasty bastard. I don't want to add to your worries but id seriously have to consider the very foundations my relationship was built upon if my dp acted like that. Sad.

Hope you feel better soon. Mind yourself. You poor thing.

GypsyMoth · 16/11/2011 23:48

V v nasty. I would be considering this relationship too

HeresTheThingBooyhoo · 16/11/2011 23:48

i actually find that quite terrifying that he choses to be so particularly unhelpful when you are in a weakened/vulnerable state. i know you aren't posting because you are scared but i would be. what happens if you get really sick in teh future and you are depending on him for really vital stuff like meds, transport to hospital, talking to doctors etc? i couldn't trust him to be there for me after this.